I’m with Pie on trying to be more open minded, even if it’s something you don’t understand or doesn’t pertain to you. If it’s not hurting you or anyone, let them be or try to ask questions (in a civil way) to get some understanding. :)

I’m straight cis gendered female, and I’ve worked with gay guys who do drag and call themselves she/her, but they identify as male and have no desire to be female outside their drag persona. I thought it was cute and let them be.

i don't agree with it either. people will do what they want and i won't dictate, so I'll respect that. i just don't believe pronouns are so fluid in social situations but that's my opinion. i have no issues with people who are transsexual/transgender. in fact, i support it if that is what will make life easier to live. everybody deserves that, even those i don't quite agree with.

@buggaboy: Naaaah, I didn’t mean you were closed minded. It’s more of a general “you”, as in everyone. I should’ve used third person talk instead of second person. xD You did good by asking though, and you got one answer from an actual he/him lesbian.

I’m just saying for me, I feel like I don’t need to have people explain their gender identity. :3 Even if it’s something I can’t empathize or understand, I still go with whatever makes the person feel comfortable.

I can understand it in the context of drag, which to my knowledge is where this most often comes from? I have rarely ever seen or heard of it outside that context. And to an extent, I could understand identifying with one's assigned-female experiences while falling somewhere on the nonbinary spectrum in terms of gender identity. Language is very limited, so some people are stuck picking and choosing terms based on their experiences. I won't say I'm comfortable hearing the term "he/him lesbian" in general, though, especially outside the aforementioned contexts. Those words do have meaning, and pronouns absolutely are meant to reflect one's gender just as labels like "lesbian" are meant to reflect both one's gender and sexual orientation. And I don't agree with people using gendered language like pronouns and orientation labels for the sole purpose of denoting that they are gender-nonconforming. I don't think that's fair to trans people, and it just increases the already dangerous level of confusion people have about the difference between gender identity and gender roles. Pronouns are tied to the former, not the latter. But again, language is very limited. I'm not here to argue with anybody about what words they feel best describe their experiences.

@buggaboy: i wasn't planning on replying to this thread again, but then i had a dream about it, so it must've bothered me more than i thought. i'm sorry i was rude to you initially, i didn't realize you were expressing confusion rather than disapproval. i was defensive because it's typical for me and my friends who identify similarly to get rude comments from strangers and sometimes friends or family both online and offline. i should've put more thought into my reply, and i definitely worded things more aggressively than i should have. i hope you're having a good day, and if you'd like to talk further about the subject, i could give a shot.