Being underweight is just as mentally damaging as being overweight

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I constantly see people online talking about how mentally damaging being overweight is, then proceed to get tons of people telling them that they're perfectly fine the way they are.
Then I turn around and see other people complain about being underweight, then proceed to be harassed and shit on for not being "grateful" for not being fat.

I have a high high high metabolism that's hard to keep up with, so I'm very thin. I've been told by my doctor that I'm underweight and need to work on it (which I am trying to get better). And yet, when I complain about it, I get shit on by other people about complaining. Every time I get out of the shower and have to see myself in the mirror, I have to rush to cover myself up or I will have a mental breakdown, I'm constantly hiding myself in baggy clothes, I wear long sleeves and pants during the summer, just so I don't have to deal with looking at myself.

I'm not devaluing the issues overweight people have, I'm just saying that underweight people deal with the same issues, just on a different spectrum.

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@Totalanimefan: I've tried going to therapists before and for some reason it never really helped me much. I'm definitely trying my best to be positive about myself, I just got frustrated and needed to say something about this

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When I was a senior in high school, nineteen years old, I was ninety-six pounds. I was GRIEVOUSLY underweight.
I got sick all of the time, developed hypoglycemia, and fainted if I didn't eat every two hours. I was fainting so often,
I was at risk of brain damage. It took several years to get to a point where I'm a healthy weight, and even longer to be comfortable
with being a healthy weight. Even now, nearly a decade later, I catch myself thinking of starving myself just because I'm a little bloated.

It sucks. There's just as many health problems that come with being underweight as there is with being overweight.
They're different, but they're both still bad and we all have the right to complain about them.

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It's a toxic mentality. While it's true you're less likely to be ridiculed, you have your own unique challenges that you have to deal with. It's comparing apples to oranges. No one should belittle you for your problems. Especially when they've never had those problems.

I also agree that you should love yourself more. Regardless of health reasons, you are who you are. As long as you're doing your best to be your best self, that is enough.

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I also have a fast metabolism and have had it my entire life.
I use to get teased by my family all the time for being too skinny and I need to eat.
I hated get-togethers the most because relatives would feel up my spine and deliberately tell me I need to eat.
Despite I could eat so much and it still wouldn't add to my weight.

I can lose weight a lot more than gaining weight.
Although, no doctor has told me I am underweight though the doctor I go to are all kinda...weird.
and just try to throw birth control at me. I gained maybe 5lbs through Bc but then i lost it all due to being sick for months, and wisdom teeth surgery.
On average I am 113-118 but i am sure I am a lot less now since none of my clothes can't stay on me very well. :vanora_cry:

But for my height it doesn't seem pretty low, but it feels very low for me.
I'm 5"8 but i can never reach towards being 120 which should be average weight.

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Are ya ready, guyz?!

TEAM HIGH METABOLISM YOOOOO
I too would like to gain weight but I can't keep it on

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Any negative commentary about someone's body is not okay.

I used to feel like my body insecurities weren't valid because I was too skinny and couldn't feel self-conscious or uncomfortable. But that's just not true at all. I would be upset about the mean things people said and it was always met with "oh, they're just jealous"

I actually had to start working out to gain weight. I could eat anything and everything, but it didn't make a difference- working out did make a difference. My body didn't start getting curves until I started sports and going to the gym.

I remember thinking that no one would want to hug me or hold me because they thought I was too skinny. I remember the hateful comments from mean girls behind me in line at lunch telling their friends that I needed to go eat a hamburger and then the mean comments in class saying that I must have an eating disorder. In reality, I was eating and trying my best to gain, but it just wasn't happening.

I hated seeing those posts that were like "real women have curves" or stuff about a size 0 being not a real woman. It was absolutely damaging.

My mom had the same problem and she couldn't gain due to stress. Her job stressed her out so much that it literally did not matter what she ate or did, she could not gain.

I don't have underweight issues anymore since I had my son, but my metabolism changed due to pregnancy. Now, I would like to lose some weight.

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I'm sorry you have people telling you not to complain about being thinner. I used to do that as a teenager when I saw myself as chunky... I instinctively hated anyone I perceived as better looking. That's what society teaches us. I can see it in children's programs, ffs. Its like we're supposed to constantly compete in these made up contests rather than supporting and uplifting each other. I'm thankful I grew up to realize all bodies are beautiful, my body and the bodies of people who look drastically different, and I hope you can feel comfortable in yours soon too. Don't be at all afraid to make changes, if that is what it takes to get you comfortable, but know at least one person thinks all bodies are fantastic.

My husband has a super-fast metabolism as well, so when he wanted to bulk up for and keep up with his construction-plumbing job, he was drinking a lot of protein shakes. Have you tried those at all?

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@MoodyBats: I get all of that. Family members constantly shitting on me for what I eat saying I need to stop being vegan for a year and just eat nothing but meat, devaluing me every chance they get, doesn't help I have to live with some of those family members.
My weight's been fluctuating between a very concerning 85-90 pounds (38-40 kilos) recently, and I'm 5'2". I dream to be at 110 pounds one day but that seems like a very distant fantasy. I really hope when I go on birth control it helps at least a little bit with my weight.

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@grost: That sucks I'm sorry that's happened to you.
All my family tells me is to eat meat. I could literally eat so much and nothing would stick.
And I've lost i'm sure quite a few pounds this past few months that idk what my weight is.

Last I went to the doctor's in December and they said i was 114.
But i'm sure i'm less than that because when i was sick with the flu i kept skipping meals on accident
because i couldn't get my own food[the kitchen is downstairs].

and just...nothing fits me. Especially pants. eve sweatpants that you can tie.

Birth control can make you gain weight. in the beginning, i went from 113lbs to 118.
but then I lost it all. :vanora_sweat:
I hope you'll be able to maintain a healthy weight soon.

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