Now this isn't my story, it's my brother's friends story. I wasn't too sure what to say to him on the subject since I would never get back together with an ex and I would tell my friends that (especially if they broke it off themselves) it simply wasn't meant to be.

So my brother has a crush on this girl, I'm gonna call her E, and E knows my brother likes her but clearly she doesn't feel the same as she's been providing little hints here and there. Now E was in a relationship for about five months with this guy, but he wasn't giving her the attention she was seeking and he was becoming more and more of a butt as time progressed so she broke up with him. A month has passed since they broke up and now she's desperately trying to get back together with him; and I literally mean desperate. She's been texting him almost daily, asking if he still has feelings for her and he usually responds within a few days saying no. Yet she keeps trying.

My brother doesn't know what to suggest, and he asked me what I would do, but honestly I don't know. I'd tell her to get over it, but honestly I've never felt the way she's feeling so it's unfair of me to be so apathetic. I want to know how I should respond, what advice I could give. One of my other friends has a friend whom after his girlfriend broke up with him did the exact same thing E is doing, and my friend told him to suck it up and move on but it seemed to only hurt him more.

Obviously in both these instances it's none of my business, but my brother is a very anxious guy, and this sort of thing doesn't help him. Help?

I wouldn't tell her to flat out move on, since yes, it could just make her angry and hurt her, but I would say that eventually, she will get tired of chasing after him and hearing "no" every time. Obviously, if he doesn't have feelings for her anymore, then he doesn't, that's not going to change. He doesn't want to be with her, so eventually, she will stop and get over him on her own. That's the thing though, she has to do it on her own and no one can really help her move on.

@Sulley: Yeah, sometimes even though you want to be with someone it's not always best for your health. >< Hopefully she'll end up taking the advice better if it's from someone other than your brother, though.

@Sulley: Third party perspectives can help a lot, so now it's just time to cross your fingers and hope she takes it well! The tough part is that moving on is always easier said than done, so it might take a while. ><

@Ginji: Yeah...I hope she does, because she seems like a nice enough friend, but absolutely if she acts that way around my brother it'll be hard for him. I think anxiety runs in the family because I always get anxious myself when I think about this sort of thing with regards to my brother. ;;

I agree with prodigy on all points. Also, I'm a very "no nonsense" kind of guy with serious thing and I never sugar coat things, so I'm the kind of person to be like, "Move on because you can't make him like you again." I tend to come off as apathetic with a lot of things and I never really mean to seem like I don't care. At the same time, I know that even if the truth hurts, it needs to be said sometimes.
Idk though. I'm not really "#1 Boyfriend" material and I'm kind of apathetic about a lot of things, so maybe you shouldn't really take my advice...

@Sulley: Yeah, I mean, I know your brother doesn't want to hurt her but sometimes being gentle sort of doesn't get you anywhere or get your point across. I know that sounds awful but like I said, sometimes the truth needs to be said whether it hurts or not. Maybe coming from a third party would help. I also know that some people would be like, "Well, she should mind her own business." Idk. You're in a tough spot. If you weren't so concerned about your brother, I'd suggest just letting it play out on its own. But I understand the need to protect your brother from potential harm because I'm that way with my kids. Hmm.