- Oh for sure for sure.
Like if you want to control all parties in a story, write just that: a story.
And RP is not a story, it's a collaboration and you have to accept that.
I had a problem with that in the early days of my RP Group, too.
Because I have a character who is very, very abrasive and she's got a LOT of trauma and shit so she is definitely not a wholesome and well rounded character, and my partners couldn't seem to grasp that.
Like I had reasons for everything she did and eventually instead of being able to reveal her story bit by bit, I had to tell my group everything.
I explained to them what happened to her and why she was the way she was.
I was like, I promise I'm not just making her a bitch to make her a bitch, she's got her reasons it's got it's purpose.
So after that, her character was more understood and we had less problems.
But it brought a problem forward of people thinking me and my characters are one, like her actions were my actions and her thinking was my thinking.
And it's like.... You really need to learn to separate the player from the character.
My character attacking yours is not an attack from me to you, my characters thoughts are not my thoughts.
