Sounds kinda pathetic..
STILL, I suck at this thing and would like to have friends to have game nights, wine nights or even just someone to go shopping with.
So please give me tips on making friends.
Forums General Chit-Chat Gimme tips on making friends please.
Sounds kinda pathetic..
STILL, I suck at this thing and would like to have friends to have game nights, wine nights or even just someone to go shopping with.
So please give me tips on making friends.
do u have money
u can buy them online
you can: join local clubs related to your hobby, take a class that you'd like, volunteer in your community.
small talk for 30min then near the end say you enjoy their time can i get ur number can we hang out sometime, etc.
be proactive. but if it's starting to feel one-sided like it's just you inviting them out for 1 month and they've done nothing back/not being reciprocal of ur "friendship", then cut them out. friendship is a 2-way street.
you can try bars too...but making friends when you're not sober....it's a double-edged sword
u can buy them online
you can: join local clubs related to your hobby, take a class that you'd like, volunteer in your community.
small talk for 30min then near the end say you enjoy their time can i get ur number can we hang out sometime, etc.
be proactive. but if it's starting to feel one-sided like it's just you inviting them out for 1 month and they've done nothing back/not being reciprocal of ur "friendship", then cut them out. friendship is a 2-way street.
you can try bars too...but making friends when you're not sober....it's a double-edged sword
@okios: HM, when all your hobbies relate to the internet or gym.
And your town has basically nothing to do. And going to the pub on your own would be scary af.
I talk to people as basically my job, but i'm too shy to ask to hang out, cause then they gonna be like "what you want to do?" And my indecisive ass won't know.
Plus money. I'm poor.
How to strike a conversation out of work... And to know if they actually think you're cool, or being polite.
I really overthink this.
Yeah I had to cut off someone I saw as my best friend last year, so unfortunately I know how.
Note to self, earn lots and buy friends.
"can i get your number"
Just chillin'
I have no friends in real life. It doesn't even bother me? I think I have ascended the need for company and just become like, a perpetual loner? I kinda made my peace with it tbh. Social interaction exhausts me in every way. I would prefer to spend time with my dog 
@robyn: time 2 get new hobbies make gym friends or online friends. u could bond over gains, workout routines and diet..fitness stuff
ok but do u want to remain shy and friendless or...
sacrifices must be made, man.
maybe it'll be easier if u pretend making friends is ur 2nd job.
u already got a nice mini list of stuff to do. out of the 3, game night seem the most fun, and least costly (i think).
oh how about pokemon go? u can exercise, collect pokemon, and it doesn't cost much. (i'm assuming everyone has a smartphone tho)
How to strike a conversation out of work: "hey i got nothing to do this week. wanna hang out?"
if they say no, then u colleague-zoned
if they say sorry, busy this week, then try one more time before giving up.
if they say srry, busy, BUT i'm free nxt week (aka a follow-up) then hurray!
if they say yes, then best hurray!
ok but do u want to remain shy and friendless or...
sacrifices must be made, man.
maybe it'll be easier if u pretend making friends is ur 2nd job.
u already got a nice mini list of stuff to do. out of the 3, game night seem the most fun, and least costly (i think).
oh how about pokemon go? u can exercise, collect pokemon, and it doesn't cost much. (i'm assuming everyone has a smartphone tho)
How to strike a conversation out of work: "hey i got nothing to do this week. wanna hang out?"
if they say no, then u colleague-zoned
if they say sorry, busy this week, then try one more time before giving up.
if they say srry, busy, BUT i'm free nxt week (aka a follow-up) then hurray!
if they say yes, then best hurray!
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I just watched a video last night that stated you need to put 100+ hours into someone for your friendship to essentially level up.
Also, if you hang with a group of people and you vibe with someone in the group to suggest one x one interaction with said person.
It was also suggested to put the effort in, say someone isn’t making plans first, you make the plan and most likely someone would go along because they didn’t have to make the plan?
I don’t know though, but I’m going to try some of these things out.
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I got lucky enough to marry my best friend, so I always have one person to do things with, at least. My best friend from high school recently got another job across the country and moved away, so we can't hang out anymore. Other than that, I just happened to become good friends with some of my coworkers and their spouses. I would recommend just asking someone you go to school or work with if they'd like to go see a movie or attend some kind of casual event together, a concert or a convention. Or just grab coffee. That's what I always do, if I meet someone I have something in common with.
In my experience making friends has been kind of an incidental thing. Like, the harder I try to make it happen, the less successful I actually am. Maybe that's just an introvert thing, though. I know people who can just set out to make a friend and they can just... do it? And that has always confused me. I think the easiest way is just to let yourself drift into people and see if you click, that's kind of how I've always done it. Probably not the fastest way of making friends but it's my way.
You can always join an online community of locals, get really drunk and start talkin' smack about your ex. >w> did that. Now I have a movies and wine night every Sunday. XD
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Having you as a Voltie would be awesome.