@SirLionelNigelConrad: No, it was something else entirely. We both started up a video game review company. I was a writer/photographer/attended events but he always had issues with my work.

I tended to lean towards "left" views. I wanted to give marginalized folks in the community and industry a voice. Obvs this interested me as I'm queer myself and as someone who is perceived as femme I've been harassed and had really awful experiences since I started playing online at 10/11. So I wanted to talk about these issues in the community and industry. I think he saw it as some weird feminist agenda that didn't matter.

We got into an argument bc he wouldn't allow me to attend an all femme event that was created as a safe space. He ended up saying some rly weird stuff. One being that defeating the stereotype that all male games are sweaty nerds in their mom's basement was more important than giving a voice to marginalized communities. I mean. I didn't think it had to be one or the other. We could totally tackle both of those.

Tbh it wasn't just this argument and I'm leaving out details... what bothered me if that a second team member started arguing with me too. I took a day to read through their replies then sent a novel back. Which they both never replied to then when I saw my friend at work (we use to work at the same place) he told me he didn't have time to reply to it. Then never did. Which told me he wasn't even up for talking it out and finding a resolution. It felt so disrespectful esp considering that we had been friends for so long.

Also he started to say rly transphobic things in front of me before I came out as genderqueer and started using they/them with friends.

And to top it off he kept inviting my abusive ex, who became physical with me post-breakup and was emotionally, mentally and verbally abusive during and after the relationship, to parties and was friends with him. He wanted to stay "neutral" even long after this guy was fired from our workplace for harassment.