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Francisco

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I think one of the worst things I ever did to myself was not learn how to make friends. I'm paying for it now. Every time I try to keep someone around because I think they're neat I always just. Be weird somehow. Maybe they just get bored. Maybe I'm overwhelming them. I wish I knew what the hell I was doing because I don't think I can take the loneliness at this level much longer.

star2000shadow

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I'm sorry you rhaving such a hard time hun.

Francisco

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@star2000shadow: Thank you. I think it kinda shows how bad it is when your comment made me cry lol.

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Francisco:

@star2000shadow: Thank you. I think it kinda shows how bad it is when your comment made me cry lol.

aww I'm sorry 'hugs'

Kent

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I wish everyone would learn the proper way to socialize. Some people can be so hard to talk to... I guess keeping friends just depends on compatible personalities? I‘m pretty sure I have no friends but my sister is pretty much my best friend so I’m fine with that. XD Good luck making and keeping friends. Every relationship requires effort on both parts. ; w;

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star2000shadow

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and if nothing else you always have us here, i know its not in real life but all my online friends are the people i talk tot he most.

Uncledaddy

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I feel this. I haven't made a friend in years. I'm lucky to have retained one or two from my younger days, but hell if I know how to make a new one. Sure would be nice. But no one ever sticks around. I always find myself wondering what makes me so off-putting, or maybe it's the fact that I have nothing in common with anyone. But you'd think surely there would be someone out there who was like-minded enough to actually hold more than a 5-second conversation? idk...
One thing I have noticed, especially online, is that more and more people seem to have some kind of social anxiety/shyness/lack of confidence etc. Seems like the more we rely on screens, the less comfortable we are with people. Go figure. But it may not just be you (or me) being off-putting; it may be that the other people we talk to feel the same lack of confidence in their own friendship-making abilities and it drives them to stay quiet. Somebody's gotta make a move, and hope for the best.

Francisco

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@star2000shadow: I have precisely two people I keep up with and they're both online. Forums have always been there too. They're a comfort but I feel like I've grown to be dependent on them for socializing. :')
@Uncledaddy: I felt that. Both the people I have now keep telling me that my weird is too weird for most people and by god they're right but I'd rather have my weird than boring people. And I honestly don't have too much trouble talking in person, but my area is so rural I'm lucky to see someone else even if I do go outside lol.

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Francisco:

@star2000shadow: I have precisely two people I keep up with and they're both online. Forums have always been there too. They're a comfort but I feel like I've grown to be dependent on them for socializing. :')
@Uncledaddy: I felt that. Both the people I have now keep telling me that my weird is too weird for most people and by god they're right but I'd rather have my weird than boring people. And I honestly don't have too much trouble talking in person, but my area is so rural I'm lucky to see someone else even if I do go outside lol.

ah, I'm sorta anti social so forums, IM's and chatrooms ten dto be my socalizing front haha.

Uncledaddy

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Yeah, much as I would love to make new friends, they're not gonna be much fun if they think I'm too weird... especially considering how much I reel it in when talking to someone for the first time lmao

Francisco

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@star2000shadow: I don't think it's the forums themselves that are the problem. Maybe they just keep me inside too much haha.
@Uncledaddy: And then when you stop reeling it in, they get skeeved out and bail. Story of my life lol. Maybe it's just a matter of seeing who sticks.

Uncledaddy

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@Francisco: That seems to be the case. My best friend is someone I was more or less forced to interact with every day because we shared a seat on the bus. We just so happened to have extremely similar tastes and personalities that complimented each other really well. What are the chances of that happening again?

Francisco

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@Uncledaddy: Yeah, the people I tend to keep are ones that stuck from day one. Those people ya just know are good. I wanna find more of those.

Uncledaddy

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You ever get a "friend crush"? Like you see someone you feel you'd have a good connection with, not romantically, but you wanna be their friend and just don't know how to make it happen? This probably takes us back to just making a move and consistently striking up conversation, and seeing if they reciprocate. If only it weren't super weird to just say "Hey, wanna be friends?" like you would if you actually wanted to date somebody.
Or friendship applications like for jobs.

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Shark

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same here man. D: I've been trying for ages and ages and only just a couple months ago someone messaged me randomly and they're the coolest person ever.

I never thought that would happen...

just keep at it, and hopefully you'll find someone.

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Francisco

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@Uncledaddy: Oh, absolutely. It's the worst thing. Some day I'm just gonna bite the bullet and talk to people whenever I wanna talk to them. When that day is, I have no idea.
@Shark: Yeah, hopefully someone will randomly message me soon lol.

star2000shadow

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Francisco:

@star2000shadow: I don't think it's the forums themselves that are the problem. Maybe they just keep me inside too much haha.
@Uncledaddy: And then when you stop reeling it in, they get skeeved out and bail. Story of my life lol. Maybe it's just a matter of seeing who sticks.

well do you like to read, you could probably make friends at your local library?

Francisco

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@star2000shadow: I was considering taking some kinda class, maybe they would have a bulletin board or something. Worth a shot.

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Francisco:

@star2000shadow: I was considering taking some kinda class, maybe they would have a bulletin board or something. Worth a shot.

true that could work 'nods'

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DevilkinBoi

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Ooh, yeah. I can understand that. I'm not the best at making and keeping friends, though I do have a few I hold dear. Taking a class or just doing something that will allow you to meet new people is always good. You never know if you might find a friend there!

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