❄🌈 ❄ Underlying all our fears is a lack of trust in ourselves! ❄ 🌈
So during my studies I've come across this woman Brene Brown. She is a social scientist who studies some hard topics such as shame and vulnerability. Here is a take away from one of her talks or her Netflix special. I don't quite remember what I was liatening to.
The myth of: I can go it alone!
Someone came up to talk to Brown after one of her presentations and said, "You've convinced me. I'm going to try vulnerability, but I'm going to try it by myself. I'll see how it goes and then I'll try it with other people." The crowd laughs, partly at the absurdity of this declaration, but also, because we recognize ourselves in this.
We live in a culture that admires people who do it on their own. We don't want to ask for help. We don't want to ask for support. It's scary to be vulnerable with others. We could be rejected. Our hearts could break. We don't want to need others, but we do. We're biologically "wired for connection." We need other people for survival. And in addition, Brown states, "In the absence of love and belonging there is suffering."
In the end, vulnerability is scary, but it's better than getting to the end of your life and realizing that you didn't show up or be seen.
🌈 You gotta be bold, you gotta be wiser