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Forums Serious Talk Apologising for a post I made (also life update)

Donator — he/him Posted 3 years ago ( 2021/09/10 01:10:15 )

SO as the title said, I'm going to do something I should have done two years ago: apologise for a stupid post I made while angry (for whatever reason.. I can't remember)
Also, a life update, but that will be in a spoiler. The apology is more important.
The life update doesn't excuse anything since the post was 2 years ago and the life update is from July last year to now, I just didn't want to make 2 posts and take away from the apology.
(I'm sorry if it's worded badly, I'm not good with words but I tried to get my feelings across as best I could and make it clear that i'm thankful for the people who said something and tried to educate me, called me out, etc)

So two years ago I made this post, which was uncalled for and I should have NEVER made it. I should have apologised back then, but I just wanted to forget it ever happened.
Obviously, I couldn't, so I want to do this now.
I'm sorry, very sorry. I hurt people, I know that, and I acknowledge my fucked up post. I should have been more considerate, and I should have just asked about it rather than being so disrespectful towards people who just wanted to use their choice of labels.
Obviously, I don't expect people to be like 'omg it's okay it was 2 years ago' because while it WAS 2 years ago, I was still an adult and I should have known better since I am also queer and have struggled with identity and shit. I can't even remember what made me post it or why I posted it, but I hate that I ever thought like that.

Needless to say I no longer think like I did when I wrote that old post. I respect and support whatever identity and label you use, and recently I have been trying to figure out the exact label for my sexuality (although I still just use gay lmao). Whatever you go by, it's your choice.
Also, if I'm ever a dick head again, please call me out, this was a learning experience that I'm deeply thankful for. Thank you to those who called me out in the comments. I mean it.
So, life update. I've been on and off of Voltra for the past...year? The post mentioned above is probably why, but I can't remember for sure.
I've gotten into some new games: D4DJ, Bandori, Priconne, Shining Nikki, Tears Of Themis... And i'm waiting for pjsekai to release globally, and also Blue Archive.
Other than that, I've been drawing. I haven't stopped, and most of it is still Belphie LMAO.

So, now onto the bit with the pets...
On July 4th last year, we had to put our cat Tiger to sleep. On January 2nd this year, we found Fluffy outside, we think it might have been shock from the fireworks, but we don't exactly know. On August 21st, we had to have Meggy put to sleep, due to old age and health complications. I won't go into detail about everything that happened with the cats, but yeah. After 15 years of having cats, we now have none. It's jarring that's for sure. Each of them made my mental health worse, but all 3 being gone is weird as hell. My depression was already bad but honestly it maaay have gotten worse.

Anyway, I'm alright I guess? I'm doing better now I think, I'm drawing again which is a good sign.

I put this in serious talk because, well, it was about a serious topic in my eyes, but if you think it should move feel free to do so.
Also, let me know if the 'life update' should go in a new post, I don't want it to take away from the actual point of me making this post. (granted it doesn't excuse anything since the post was made 2 years ago, but just in case)

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Voltie — They/He Posted 3 years ago ( 2021/09/10 14:40:56 )
Should they keep it on display...


I wasn't on this site back then, so I'm unsure of what the post was, but good on you for owning up. Glad you have grown since then too!


Or redecorate?
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Donator — He/Him Posted 3 years ago ( 2021/09/10 14:49:32 )
Hey thanks for apologizing!

I never thought you were asking that out of malice. I just thought you didn't know.

I'm sorry about your cats. :( With time, the pain will lessen for you.
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Donator — he/him Posted 3 years ago ( 2021/09/10 23:55:47 )

@Totalanimefan:
@MaxIsConfused:
@Shark:
@Kory:

thank you guys
I think when I made that post, it was mostly me not knowing but also I remember people I followed on twitter at the time being against it and I must've been like 'oh so it's a bad thing??' and then for some reason I made a post here about it???? I can't remember everything but I know twitter was a part of it
(I don't follow those people anymore, I don't know if they've also changed or not but I hope they have)

I'm just glad people called me out on it honestly, it really made me think.

Also, thank you, it's been a few weeks since Meggy passed so I'm still kind of meh, but I managed to draw something so that's a good sign aksjhjd
(the only thing I've finished recently was a chibi but it still counts heheh)

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Donator — he/him Posted 3 years ago ( 2021/09/11 19:22:44 )

@Stinky: ahh that's good, i still really don't like that i even made the post but i learnt something from it so in a way i'm glad it happened kind of? i would have liked for it to happen in a different way but i can't change the past
also i feel like i recognise you but i'm not entirely sure and it's bugging me aaaaaaaa >w<

yeah, they were all like 6 months apart which probably didn't help at all aksjhdj
we're doing okay now though i think?? obviously it's still weird not having any cats and still sad to think about but like, we can talk about it so thats good~

also is ffxiv the one with the trial that became a meme?? i swear i know that game somehow

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Donator — he/him Posted 3 years ago ( 2021/09/12 02:04:58 )

@Stinky: I KNEW U WERE FAMILIAR AKSJHDJ
i was wondering where u went actually, turns out u were there all along :0

also maybe i should start my free trial and become a catboy ajshjdh that sounds fun :3 i have a very big need for anything cat related rn so nows a good time mayhaps 👀👀👀

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Donator — he/him Posted 3 years ago ( 2021/09/13 22:52:06 )

@Stinky: ajhjdh honestly thats a mood, i changed mine like 3 times within a year of joining

also how am i gonna choose between catboys and bunny boys omg :0 help i love both,, leaning towards catboys but.. bunniesssss

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Donator — he/him Posted 3 years ago ( 2021/09/15 00:15:34 )

@Stinky: kjashjdh i could indeed~ it would take more work tho ur right akwjhsgdjd
it does make me wanna play tho,, the catboys and bunny boys are tempting

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Donator — he/him Posted 3 years ago ( 2021/09/15 21:20:16 )

@Stinky: kajhsdjhdg i shall :3 i've been meaning to give it a try so im prepared >:3

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Donator — he/him Posted 3 years ago ( 2021/09/17 22:12:57 )

@Stinky: ajhshdh i'll let u know what i do with it!! i know like nothing about the game itself other than the whole catboy thing so i'll probably need to look at guides >w<

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Donator — he/him Posted 3 years ago ( 2021/09/18 20:11:33 )

@Stinky: yeah i follow a couple people who play it on twitter and the community seems pretty nice :3 i've never played WoW but i DID play blade n soul so i have a bit of experience with mmorpgs but it's been a while >w<

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Donator — he/him Posted 3 years ago ( 2021/09/20 01:04:05 )

@Stinky: ahh i hope so, BUT now im imagining my stepdad having a little chibi character and AKJSHDJHG
i feel like the majority of WoW players are more of the 'big tough strong man' type so maybe most of them will stick to their game >w<

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Donator — he/him Posted 3 years ago ( 2021/09/21 23:57:08 )

@Stinky: akjhsd yeah tbf i can see why they would want to jump ship, although it'd be nice if they didn't turn a good community bad
hopefully the ones moving are the nice ones who DONT turn everything bad,, aka not the average WoW player KJSHJJD

honestly i've met some very nice people that play it so hopefully those are the people moving, but considering how popular final fantasy is in general,,, aaaaaa
i have high hopes though, especially considering it kind of caters to the more catboy loving types of people aksjhjdjkh

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Donator — he/him Posted 3 years ago ( 2021/09/22 23:00:22 )

@Stinky: ahh i'm glad it's been a good experience!! i've never really been good with the social parts of mmo's bc of social anxiety but since the community is nice i should be good aksjhjd
i feel like the player base is what kept me away from WoW tho bc like, there are some good people but most of them are just..... meh
as long as they don't corrupt the community they're fine KAJHSJD

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Donator — he/him Posted 3 years ago ( 2021/09/23 00:22:12 )

@Stinky: AKJSHJH yeah that definitely makes a difference
it's usually better to just stick to ur own bubble, fandom is nicer that way~

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Donator — he/him Posted 3 years ago ( 2021/09/24 02:02:31 )

@Stinky: ahh yeah i get u
i tend to just stick to my own little corner, it can get tiring constantly seeing fandom drama >~<

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Donator — he/him Posted 3 years ago ( 2021/09/26 02:10:01 )

@Stinky: ajshdhh yeah i like to just stick to who i know too, im kind of wary of following people rn bc sometimes they don't list their age and i don't wanna follow minors aaaaa
i also ended up muting a bunch of words bc i kept seeing drama and it wasn't helping my mental health KASJHDKJH
i'm glad the fandom im in rn is currently pretty chill :3 (or maybe it's not and i just can't see it bc i muted a bunch of things LMAO)

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Donator — he/him Posted 3 years ago ( 2021/09/26 23:19:42 )

@Stinky: akjshddj right, i hate social media anyway so there's no point in following people who make me want to log off every minute
*mutes every word related to genshin-*

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Donator — he/him Posted 3 years ago ( 2021/09/26 23:51:56 )

@Stinky: same like, i tried playing it and it's neat but it lags SO MUCH
i like the art i see but idc about the game itself anymore >w<

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Donator — he/him Posted 3 years ago ( 2021/09/28 00:21:07 )

@Stinky: yeah i get you, it's pretty at least ajshd

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