So this is going to be a long story. Buckle up everyone.
I have two friends in college. I have others, but these two I see and talk to daily. They are my "closest" friends that attend the same school as me. I'll call them "D" and "J" because it'll make things faster and easier. I met D my freshman year. We were roommates. We got along great, basically the same person. We never got into fights and it was all good. So we decided to live together our sophomore year.
Now, I don't really know what went wrong, maybe it was my fault (it probably was). Our sophomore year we lived with two other girls. They were dirty and irresponsible which caused tension in the apartment. Early on in our sophomore year D got a boyfriend. Now, at first I supported it but they moved really fast. Like she was basically living with him after their first date. I voiced my opinions about it because if I don't like something I will tell you. She said she was grown and could do what she wanted. So that was that. I told her I didn't feel comfortable with him staying over at our place during the night. She said she would respect that. (He lived a few doors down in a single bedroom apartment).
So after she started dating this guy, her personality did a complete 180. She was glued to him 24/7 and wouldn't do anything without his approval basically. After a few months of this I sat down and talked to her, saying I felt like I was losing my best friend and that she had changed. She didn't see it that way so I dropped it. Well things got tense because of the other roommates and D being someone I didn't know.
Fast forward to spring semester of sophomore year. D and I were doing homework and talking. I was saying how I couldn't wait for everyone to leave for spring break so that I could be by myself. She took this, I don't even know how, and got up and left, saying she was going for a walk. She didn't seem upset at the time or even say she was. It started raining and she never came back so I figured, like she usually did, that she was at her boyfriends place.
After that night she completely avoided me with no reason. She wouldn't talk to me or look at me. We had all the same classes and sat by each other but she didn't after that. Soon the other roommates wouldn't talk to me either. This left me completely alienated in every sense of the word. This caused me to have a mental breakdown. I couldn't go to class because she was there and I didn't want to be at home because it felt like a suffocating prison. I was walking on broken glass.
I went to a therapist after this. He advised me that I shouldn't continue my friendship with her anymore. But I didn't take his advice. I reached out to her. I wanted to know why she was acting this way. When we talked she said it was because I didn't like her boyfriend and I was being rude and the night she left and it started raining I didn't check on her. I explained to her that I didn't know she was upset or out in the rain.
We mended our friendship, sort of. J is D's best friend from highschool and she also started going to our college. Junior year we started talking. After a while she confessed that she had hated me the year before because D bad mouthed me so much. This hurts me even today to think about. It aggravates me because D claims that if she has a problem she tells the person. She never told me. She also keeps up a "holier than thou" appearance and "abstinance" around me when I know she's been intimate with her boyfriend since the second month they were together. I'm not judging, just upset that she lies to my face about it.
So J and I became friends my Junior year. We talk about D's boyfriend, we both hate him because he's a controlling a-hole. D doesn't see it but we all do. So D, J, and I were sitting and talking. D admits that if I pissed her off she would sneak her bf in at night into the apartment, even though she knew it would make me uncomfortable. she claimed she did this to get back at me, even though I never knew.
J and I were talking one time and she admitted that they would talk about me behind my back and that D would show her boyfriend messages of when I was going through rough stuff with a past boyfriend. She showed him private stuff. I've made it a point never to text her about anything besides school or something that I wouldn't mind being shared to the world.
But knowing that they both talk about me... it's like. whenever they are alone together I can't help but wonder if they are quietly talking about me when I'm in the next room or something....
I don't know where I was going with this. I just wanted to get it out there I guess...
I have two friends in college. I have others, but these two I see and talk to daily. They are my "closest" friends that attend the same school as me. I'll call them "D" and "J" because it'll make things faster and easier. I met D my freshman year. We were roommates. We got along great, basically the same person. We never got into fights and it was all good. So we decided to live together our sophomore year.
Now, I don't really know what went wrong, maybe it was my fault (it probably was). Our sophomore year we lived with two other girls. They were dirty and irresponsible which caused tension in the apartment. Early on in our sophomore year D got a boyfriend. Now, at first I supported it but they moved really fast. Like she was basically living with him after their first date. I voiced my opinions about it because if I don't like something I will tell you. She said she was grown and could do what she wanted. So that was that. I told her I didn't feel comfortable with him staying over at our place during the night. She said she would respect that. (He lived a few doors down in a single bedroom apartment).
So after she started dating this guy, her personality did a complete 180. She was glued to him 24/7 and wouldn't do anything without his approval basically. After a few months of this I sat down and talked to her, saying I felt like I was losing my best friend and that she had changed. She didn't see it that way so I dropped it. Well things got tense because of the other roommates and D being someone I didn't know.
Fast forward to spring semester of sophomore year. D and I were doing homework and talking. I was saying how I couldn't wait for everyone to leave for spring break so that I could be by myself. She took this, I don't even know how, and got up and left, saying she was going for a walk. She didn't seem upset at the time or even say she was. It started raining and she never came back so I figured, like she usually did, that she was at her boyfriends place.
After that night she completely avoided me with no reason. She wouldn't talk to me or look at me. We had all the same classes and sat by each other but she didn't after that. Soon the other roommates wouldn't talk to me either. This left me completely alienated in every sense of the word. This caused me to have a mental breakdown. I couldn't go to class because she was there and I didn't want to be at home because it felt like a suffocating prison. I was walking on broken glass.
I went to a therapist after this. He advised me that I shouldn't continue my friendship with her anymore. But I didn't take his advice. I reached out to her. I wanted to know why she was acting this way. When we talked she said it was because I didn't like her boyfriend and I was being rude and the night she left and it started raining I didn't check on her. I explained to her that I didn't know she was upset or out in the rain.
We mended our friendship, sort of. J is D's best friend from highschool and she also started going to our college. Junior year we started talking. After a while she confessed that she had hated me the year before because D bad mouthed me so much. This hurts me even today to think about. It aggravates me because D claims that if she has a problem she tells the person. She never told me. She also keeps up a "holier than thou" appearance and "abstinance" around me when I know she's been intimate with her boyfriend since the second month they were together. I'm not judging, just upset that she lies to my face about it.
So J and I became friends my Junior year. We talk about D's boyfriend, we both hate him because he's a controlling a-hole. D doesn't see it but we all do. So D, J, and I were sitting and talking. D admits that if I pissed her off she would sneak her bf in at night into the apartment, even though she knew it would make me uncomfortable. she claimed she did this to get back at me, even though I never knew.
J and I were talking one time and she admitted that they would talk about me behind my back and that D would show her boyfriend messages of when I was going through rough stuff with a past boyfriend. She showed him private stuff. I've made it a point never to text her about anything besides school or something that I wouldn't mind being shared to the world.
But knowing that they both talk about me... it's like. whenever they are alone together I can't help but wonder if they are quietly talking about me when I'm in the next room or something....
I don't know where I was going with this. I just wanted to get it out there I guess...
