One of my family members apparently died yesterday and we only know because someone on my mother's friend list on Facebook posted about it. I used to be really close to her, and she used to babysit me all the time. But no one could tell us.
I hate finding out about deaths of my family from the new feed on Facebook. It's sad that she's gone, sad that the only reason I know is because mom noticed a post on her news feed. So be it. It's still sad all around.
This part of the family is step family, but I always just thought of them as family. I guess the step part matters to them considering no one tells us anything except one aunt who isn't in the best of health and is probably scrambling to try to take care of things right now, so I definitely do not blame her.....but....no one? No one could think of telling us? Even in a text? Or even a facebook message? I wouldn't know if mom hadn't seen the post....she'll probably be buried tomorrow or monday....and we have no information whatsoever....so even if I wanted to go to visitation or the funeral....I can't. Because we, as step family, always get left out.
Forums General Chit-Chat Found out my grandmother died...
@Yokuutsu: I'm sorry for your loss and how you found out about it. They should still have informed you even though you're step family.
@Apollo Im Burning: Thank you
I guess step family isn't really family. That just adds to the hurt.
And I found out that the visitation and burial are both tomorrow, nowhere near where a lot of the family is (not that it's too far to go), but I don't think I'm going to go. They won't want me there anyway....they do judge based on clothes (my brother dressed up for my dad's funeral and they seemed surprised and all that)...and all I've got to wear is blue jeans and t-shirts....I don't want to deal with that negativity on top of her death....and on top of the fact that no one even thought to tell us....and I have like no photos of her .-.
@Temujin: Thank you.
Well, at least I can no longer argue about where we stand. So....I guess no Christmas or Thanksgiving dinner unless I want to deal with them after this....
@Elithiya: Thank you.
Well, a lot of them are older, so very few are on facebook, but I guess none of them think about us or anything when it comes to things like this. It hurts to know this, but I guess it's better now than latter.
-huggles-
I guess step family isn't really family. That just adds to the hurt.
And I found out that the visitation and burial are both tomorrow, nowhere near where a lot of the family is (not that it's too far to go), but I don't think I'm going to go. They won't want me there anyway....they do judge based on clothes (my brother dressed up for my dad's funeral and they seemed surprised and all that)...and all I've got to wear is blue jeans and t-shirts....I don't want to deal with that negativity on top of her death....and on top of the fact that no one even thought to tell us....and I have like no photos of her .-.
@Temujin: Thank you.
Well, at least I can no longer argue about where we stand. So....I guess no Christmas or Thanksgiving dinner unless I want to deal with them after this....
@Elithiya: Thank you.
Well, a lot of them are older, so very few are on facebook, but I guess none of them think about us or anything when it comes to things like this. It hurts to know this, but I guess it's better now than latter.
-huggles-
@Elithiya: They like to forget about us a lot. Except, one aunt tries to, though sometimes she forgets too and all....or maybe she assumes we know? Idk. But it bothers me because I now know the visitation and funeral both are tomorrow. Wait any longer and we'd miss it all, you know? Which I don't think, if I went, I'd be able to keep quiet about WHY COULD NO ONE INFORM US?! -twitch-
@Elithiya: Yep tomorrow.
I can say goodbye from anywhere....since she isn't there anymore, you know? That's the positive. Funerals are not for the dead. They are for the living.
I can say goodbye from anywhere....since she isn't there anymore, you know? That's the positive. Funerals are not for the dead. They are for the living.
@Apollo Im Burning: Idk, but I'm gonna ask....after going through what photos I've posted on facebook from family things to see if I've got one.
@Apollo Im Burning: I found like three, but in none of them is she really the focus? .-.
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pls don't
@Apollo Im Burning: I wouldn't have the money for that .-. But hopefully I can get a photo from my aunt.
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