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Voltie Posted 4 months ago ( 2019/08/13 09:16:43 )
I'm curious how you guys de-stress, especially because apparently my methods I usually use don't really work and like...yeah I wanna hear how other people de-stress.

I'm talking the kind of stress that's like... bordering on the feeling of nausea or blacking out, and not being able to sleep at night for more than an hour at a time/constant waking because holy fuck there's a deadline but you can't do shit about it and everything's out of your control now and why are you still worrying omg just sleep you idiot you need to have sleep to tackle this properly in the morning what do you mean you feel like you're gonna throw up you dummy there's nothing to throw up its just a phantom feeling wow why are you like this and there's still like a constant pressure in the middle of your forehead that hints at maybe you might faint or not but probably not because you're just being dumb again and fjcjjf

*wheezes* okay that sentence was longer than it was supposed to be lol.

Anyway I wanna know what your guys's methods are because mine suck ass and don't actually work when things get overwhelming so lmaooo

Donator — f Posted 4 months ago ( 2019/08/13 12:56:51 )
    I listen to rain music to destress. At first it felt stupid but eventually it started working and now I wouldn't be without it. There are several good playlists on Spotify.


Artist — Princess Posted 4 months ago ( 2019/08/13 13:07:22 )

It depends, some people listen to heavy metal to relax, some people listen to Enya. But yeah I second the music thing, helps me relax and focus at the same time.
Maybe cut down on coffee if you drink it. Games that occupy the mind helps distract me from things I cannot change, not MOBAs or FPS, more like games that require strategy and actual planning with very little left to chance. Hanging out with good friends and people also helps.


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Donator — Kent-sama Posted 4 months ago ( 2019/08/13 13:27:04 )
I listen to bittersweet j-pop or watch sweet anime or cartoons. ; w; Anything that makes me laugh or cry usually helps.


Donator — Kent-sama Posted 4 months ago ( 2019/08/13 13:27:49 )
I agree that talking and hanging out with loved ones helps too!



Interface support — it/they Posted 4 months ago ( 2019/08/13 14:16:40 )

If I’m having trouble falling asleep because of stress/anxiety, I listen to guided meditation clips on YouTube. Usually I reach a point where I can’t focus on it anymore or get annoyed by the voice and I turn it off but I’m distracted enough from the stress thoughts at that point that I fall asleep hahahah.


Donator Posted 4 months ago ( 2019/08/13 15:00:23 )

Epsom Salt Bath
Peaceful Video Game OSTs playing in the background.
A slow color changing light.
With a glass of iced herbal tea.(hot bath with a cold drink is nice)

Then when that is all said and done I'll zone out in either a book or a video game.
Whatever helps dissociate from the worries.


Voltie — Dee Posted 4 months ago ( 2019/08/13 15:01:34 )

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Moderator Posted 4 months ago ( 2019/08/13 15:32:48 )

Nature. Have a good walk and then sit on bench and watch everything pass by.

Voltie Posted 4 months ago ( 2019/08/13 17:38:53 )
Ahh. I don't think my methods work all the time, especially with an essay deadline due (Essays always take me forever to write because... I never know WHAT I want to write.)
I usually either draw (something out of the ordinary, like those pattern color in ones, or I work on commissions because I'm getting at least one time constraint thing done), I take a hot shower/bath for a few minutes or I literally clean everything in my entire house. You know I'm stressed when my house is immaculate on a Tuesday night. xD

Donator — She/her Posted 4 months ago ( 2019/08/13 18:32:14 )

I go for a walk and/or listen to music. Try to stay away from the sad ones.

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Voltie — He/Him Posted 4 months ago ( 2019/08/13 18:33:54 )

I live in a constant state of stress. The only real solution is to solve the actual problem, of course, but sometimes--like in my case--that's not possible. So temporary distractions are pretty much all I have. They don't work very well for me, honestly; I think I'm becoming immune to them. But if your problems are temporary or things that will otherwise resolve themselves and you're just wound up or nervous about them, that's easier to handle. Then the temporary things might actually do you some good. What works or doesn't work will depend on your mood and situation.

-Soothing ambient noise like rain sounds, nature sounds, or an ASMR video
-White noise, noise canceling headphones, ear plugs, a loud fan, etc to block out distractions
-Energetic music: sometimes stress means pent up energy, and music can help channel it and work out your feelings
-Calm music: sometimes the opposite approach works better and a soothing song can bring you back to a calmer state
-Walking or exercise, preferably outdoors in nature or in a dedicated place free of stressful distractions if possible, but any activity is good
-Engaging in a hobby or working on a project
-Talking/venting, either to friends you trust or perhaps online where it's anonymous; sometimes just writing in a journal helps, too
-Being around animals, if possible; if you don't have pets, consider a trip to a dog park, cat cafe, pet store, shelter, etc
-A warm bath or shower, bonus points if you can add something like a bath/shower bomb, epsom salts, etc
-Smiling: tricks your brain into thinking you're in a better mood than you are
-Repeating something positive to yourself: "I'm so proud of you for doing this", "It's going to go great", "You've handled worse", etc
-Talking to people who have been in a similar situation and can empathize, and possibly share how they handled it and give encouragement
-Performing a ritual: a specific set of actions with the intention of calming yourself down in mind while doing them
-Warm drinks like coffee, tea, or cocoa (but keep the caffeine to a minimum, as too much will make anxiety worse)
-Go somewhere else; sometimes, just a change of scenery can help you clear your mind
-Aromatherapy; lavender is usually the go-to for de-stressing, but any smell you really enjoy will help
-Change what you're doing if it's not working; if you're trying to sleep but can't, just get up and try again later
-Play a simple game, nothing too exciting but just enough to give you something else to do and concentrate on for a while
-Read a book, preferably a physical copy as you can take it with you away from other distractions and stressors
-Cold water: splash some on your face, drink a tall glass of it, take a cold shower; sometimes cold works better than warm for anxiety
-Take deep breaths and count down, then repeat
-Practice mindfulness and awareness of your physical surroundings

Usually some combination of two or more of the above works best. One thing by itself probably won't do much, but if you find a few that work for you even a little, make them habit--just having a go-to habit can also help.

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Voltie — they/he Posted 4 months ago ( 2019/08/14 00:26:40 )
for me when stress gets really bad(like when my bunny was sick) i try to do mindfulness exercises. you can find a bunch online and try them all out one by one. for me one that helped was sitting back and taking stock of all of my senses and what i was experiencing by focusing on each one at a time.
so for example i would lay back and look around the room, just examining all the details of everything. the layout of the furniture, the color of the walls, the number of drawers in a dresser, etc.
then i would close my eyes and think about what the room smelled like, and if i had something edible i could pop it into my mouth and think about the taste.
with my eyes still closed i would listen to my surroundings. the fan, sounds from the street, downstairs.
finally i would focus in on the sensations of my body. the feeling of the fabric of my clothing, whether i had an itchy bug bite, if i was hungry or had to pee. does my neck hurt? am i tired? sometimes i would also just tense all of the muscles in my body and release them slowly from the feet upwards.

that kind of thing can help with a panic attack because its like, grounding you in the physical reality. though of course all of this is easier said than done and it might be really hard to focus like that. plus its not an instant anxiety cure.

Donator — Trash Posted 4 months ago ( 2019/08/14 01:41:01 )

I drink tea, sit in silence, draw a bit, or if I'm feeling for it I play some video games~
As much as I love to listen to music sometimes I just need time to think without any sort of distraction so I also tend to listen to rainymood or nothing at all. NOrmally this helps me collect my thoughts and organize it in a way so I know what I want to do next.


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Voltie — He/Him Posted 4 months ago ( 2019/08/21 03:15:00 )
It really depends on how stressed and upset I am.
Stress usually doesn't come as a single emotion to me, it's bundled with tons of others.
Anger, sadness, self loathing, just in general all the nasty ones.
They all bunch up in a nice little package of despair.

Depending on how bad I'm feeling I have different ways of de-stressing.
The first one I usually go to is coding and developing, this usually happens when I'm feeling bad but not too bad.
It serves as a good distraction and also is doing something positive.
Especially learning new things.
Puts all my mind into focusing on learning and building and I can spend hours doing it and forget my troubles for that time.

Then you have the me hit by a pretty large package, and at that point I start to lose the energy to code.
It no longer becomes enjoyable for me, and due to my lack of energy which comes with feeling bad I just can't be arsed with it.
I stare at the text editor thinking "what's the point" or I do about 3 minutes of coding and exit out.
At that point I usually play a game to distract me for a bit, maybe some My Time at Portia or Planetside 2, or something.
I can still play games which require "effort" at that point and enjoy myself enough to avoid reality.

Next stage, losing energy to even bother with most games.
At that point I usually stare at my monitor for hours just blankly wondering what to do.
Thinking "nope cant be bothered" with 90% of it.
Maybe I'll open reddit just to scroll through and close it, just to re-open it again and repeat.
I'll try to browse twitch to see if I can't watch someone play a game.
This stage the only games I really play are clicker/idle games, brainless games which required no thinking.

Last stage is full, deep, fuck everything depression.
Nothing that usually interests me does anymore.
I sit on the computer for an hour or so, staring at the screen.
Opening and closing random things trying to think of SOMETHING that I like.
Nothing, so I then turn off the computer and go back to bed.
Sleeping is my primary form of escape at this point.

So yeah, simply:

Coding -> Games -> Idle Games -> Sleeping

Depending on how bad I feel.
And yeah that's pretty much how I deal with all negative emotions

Donator — They/Them Posted 4 months ago ( 2019/08/21 05:22:37 )

When my stress/anxiety is super high...
I'll sit in the shower and zone out until I start thinking about the water hitting my skin.
If my partner is free I might ask him to pound, in a massage kind of way, on my back.

Ideally you start to recognize stress levels before you get to maximum capacity, but it obviously can't be helped sometimes.
The thing that helped me the most was practicing mindfulness regularly. It won't help right away or all the time, but it's worth it. I've read a couple books that caught my eye on the subject.



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