How to deal with a facebook friends request

vengeance

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I wasn't sure what else to make of the title. Anyway I got a friends request from an old co-worker I used to friends with on fb. But something happened at work that made me uncomfortable working with him again. One was him confessing his feelings to me. The other one was him giving me a hug out of nowhere. The hug made my really angry. I also told him I did not like him. A while back on radio this woman said she has the problem where if she is nice to guys they always think she likes them. And I could so relate. A caller then said "Just stop being nice to them!".

Am I mean if I decline the friends request? I am not even sure what he want's from me.

eleven

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You could probably just ignore it. I've left friendship requests for literal years because I don't want to decline and don't want to accept.

If he confronts you about it, then that's also uncomfortable but you may have to tell him he made you uncomfortable.

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Miss Sandman

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@vengeance: oh yes being nice to guys can be really bad! Always ending the same way for me too! If i have such requests i always ignore them for a while than decline them

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Wildfire

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@vengeance: You are under zero obligation to befriend anyone on facebook or any other social platform - especially an old co-worker, and particularly one who makes you uncomfortable, pushes your boundaries, and who you're not sure what his motives are. Ignore him. Block him. And feel good about doing so!

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Kitalpha Hart

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Are ya ready, guyz?!

Decline, don't know this person

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inatlaka

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@vengeance: oh man! I know that feeling all to well. I usually ignore the friend request. And if need to I will block them.
This one time some guy in the Aztec dance community added me. And before I use to accept every Aztec dancer that adds me.... well not anymore. This dude kept messaging and messaging. Until one day he sends me a message saying why do I take so long to respond to him..... I do not reply and delete him fast. He then continues to send me a bunch of messages saying why did I delete him he thought we were good friends.... And I have never even met this guy. Or spoke about any friendly things. I just answered simple art questions. {I was being nice}
A week goes by and he sees me at a ceremony and I avoid him at all cost because I felt attacked by him.
Later on after that ceremony he sends me more messages saying how he saw me at the ceremony and to please talk to him and why did I delete him! bla blah blah......... I blocked him. And I have blocked many doods mostly. I'm very paranoid after that. some guys really never met a nice woman before jajaj.

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vengeance

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Thank you all. I declined the request.

Mousy

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I usually just ignore the request until it goes away or sits in limbo forever. I’ve got a good 20 people in limbo 🤣

I’m glad you found a solution!

Please ping! I get distracted easily.

TomYum

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I think it is very strange they are called friends. It really cheapens the term. So many people expect you to add them like it is nothing. I am glad I don't have a Facebook!

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Alexis

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You've made it clear that you don't like him so you've already set that boundary. Its not mean to decline in my opinion, but as others have mentioned you could always just ignore it if you don't want to decline it.

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