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This reminds me of a funny TED talk if you'd like to watch it: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k0GQSJrpVhM he's a really good speaker haha. I've also seen his other TED talk about emotional first aid

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@kaichoukai: I'm listening to it again myself. he's got such nice presentation skills

someone left a comment with all the key points haha:
- 1: Acknowledge all the bad qualities, pet peeves, and incompatibilities of the relationship. Not to get angry or hold a grudge, but to simply realize that the end of the relationship is actually a blessing. Keep a list, and look at it as often as you need to.

- 2: Don't feed your addiction. Don't allow yourself to look at their social media profiles, don't spend time idealizing all the best parts, don't keep looking at their photos. Be aware of when you do this and recognize that it is only hurting you and complicating your recovery.

- 3: Fill the voids. They're gone now, but you can and should replace whatever is now empty with something better, something more healthy, something that will help you create and define a better future for yourself. This could be memories, photos, habits, whatever is in your life that is now a void due to their absence.

- 4: Be willing to let go and acknowledge that it is over. That relationship won't come back. Even if the person did somehow, that relationship - as it was - will not. The sooner you accept this, the sooner you will have room in your life for a much better, new relationship with someone that actually deserves your love.

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I also had a six year relationship that started in high school, and we also lived together for three years.
The guy was probably my most serious, head-over-heels relationship I had ever had. I was certain I would never
love anyone as much as I loved him, and that I would never feel a harder heartbreak.

I was wrong, lmao.

It's funny to say now, but I can look back on that relationship and see all its flaws, all the times I should have
ended it sooner, all of his mistakes, all of my mistakes, and not feel anything at all. I don't even really remember anything
noteworthy of being, like, a deep romantic memory. If I feel anything, I kind of feel regret for wasting so many years
on someone that really wasn't good for me at all. And it took me a long time to come to that realization!
After breaking up with him, I didn't date again for nearly two years while I put myself back together.
I had to get a new place, find new interests, and rediscover who I was without that relationship.
And I am so, so much happier now than I ever was then. The end of that relationship was a BLESSING, and I had no idea.

As a fellow jealous person, I would advise that you definitely analyze that part of yourself before going into
a new relationship (something I'm sure you're not interested in yet, anyway). Talk to your therapist, figure out
where it stems from, what REALLY causes it, and what it takes for you to trust someone in the future.
Makes the next relationship work out waaay smoother, trust me.

Point is, you can hold onto the memories if you want to. But, you'll let them go eventually, anyway.
The pain will dull to the point you don't even remember what it felt like, exactly.
So you can either let it go now, or let it go later, but you will move on and you will be better for it.