i've worked with my best friend for months but we recently started frustrating each other more and more. she would ask me questions both of us knew i wouldn't know the answer to (to get me to find the answer for her, instead of her going and finding the answer). yapped nonstop. always intruded on MY projects as though they were hers too (they're not. in any way, shape or form.) anyway one day i was a little more short with her than usual and she exploded. i apologized for making her upset, we went over what she was upset about but she never asked me why i was frustrated so i just let it go.
then yesterday she went off on me again just for doing business at work. i was on the phone with a client, turned around and asked my purchaser if an item was still stuck in customs, and my purchaser said we had some in but weren't putting them up on our site yet. he then told me to ask the owner if i could portion some of them out to my client, if i wanted. i didn't go to ask the owner because it wasn't worth it to me. i sat back down and wrapped up my phone call.
my friend started slamming things and mumbling and talking in a really snippy tone to one of our coworkers about me, in front of me. so of course i said "the only thing i asked was if they were stuck in customs." and she started going off on me, actually yelling in the office about how annoying it is to her that "other people need the item too" but i'm "getting special treatment". like, girl, it's business. if i had gone to the owner and he said "give 100 to your client" there's nothing she can do about it. but i didn't even do that, because that wasn't what i was asking for, it was whether or not they're stuck in customs.
i noticed people were really paying attention to her yelling so i said "this should be private. i will go in the back. you can come talk to me if you would still like to continue this." and went to the back. she never came. i paid zero attention to her for the rest of the day.
today, she went to my boss and told him she had tried to talk to me (she didn't, or at least didn't effectively get my attention because i have no recollection of this) but that i was being bitchy and blatantly ignoring her all day (i was, but if she had started talking to me i would have addressed her). my boss responded by telling her she was out of line for her behavior in the office yesterday. he then took me aside and suggested i move somewhere else in the office since my desk spot kinda sucked anyway. i had wanted to move my desk yesterday due to the repeated issues and my own frustration, but he initially advised against it.
so i packed up my stuff and went to a different desk, far away from her. i've realized she takes up about 3 hours of my day with her nonstop talking and that's time i could be spending on my clients, or pursuing new business. this has a direct impact on the amount of money i make. if i stop the useless chatter and instead focus on work i could add thousands of dollars to my pay every month. it would effectively double my active working hours. and i've been giving this up because i didn't want to start a rift between us by bringing it up. my management projects will be my own, without her interference or constant "suggestions" that only work for her.
i don't know what i'm trying to accomplish by posting this - i guess i don't really know how i feel about it? honestly i don't think i really even care. i do know i'm annoyed and frustrated, but i also feel kind of bad because i can't summon some sort of sad emotion about the whole situation.
then yesterday she went off on me again just for doing business at work. i was on the phone with a client, turned around and asked my purchaser if an item was still stuck in customs, and my purchaser said we had some in but weren't putting them up on our site yet. he then told me to ask the owner if i could portion some of them out to my client, if i wanted. i didn't go to ask the owner because it wasn't worth it to me. i sat back down and wrapped up my phone call.
my friend started slamming things and mumbling and talking in a really snippy tone to one of our coworkers about me, in front of me. so of course i said "the only thing i asked was if they were stuck in customs." and she started going off on me, actually yelling in the office about how annoying it is to her that "other people need the item too" but i'm "getting special treatment". like, girl, it's business. if i had gone to the owner and he said "give 100 to your client" there's nothing she can do about it. but i didn't even do that, because that wasn't what i was asking for, it was whether or not they're stuck in customs.
i noticed people were really paying attention to her yelling so i said "this should be private. i will go in the back. you can come talk to me if you would still like to continue this." and went to the back. she never came. i paid zero attention to her for the rest of the day.
today, she went to my boss and told him she had tried to talk to me (she didn't, or at least didn't effectively get my attention because i have no recollection of this) but that i was being bitchy and blatantly ignoring her all day (i was, but if she had started talking to me i would have addressed her). my boss responded by telling her she was out of line for her behavior in the office yesterday. he then took me aside and suggested i move somewhere else in the office since my desk spot kinda sucked anyway. i had wanted to move my desk yesterday due to the repeated issues and my own frustration, but he initially advised against it.
so i packed up my stuff and went to a different desk, far away from her. i've realized she takes up about 3 hours of my day with her nonstop talking and that's time i could be spending on my clients, or pursuing new business. this has a direct impact on the amount of money i make. if i stop the useless chatter and instead focus on work i could add thousands of dollars to my pay every month. it would effectively double my active working hours. and i've been giving this up because i didn't want to start a rift between us by bringing it up. my management projects will be my own, without her interference or constant "suggestions" that only work for her.
i don't know what i'm trying to accomplish by posting this - i guess i don't really know how i feel about it? honestly i don't think i really even care. i do know i'm annoyed and frustrated, but i also feel kind of bad because i can't summon some sort of sad emotion about the whole situation.
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