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Posted in I am alone now. Posted 5 years ago

its only gonna be extremely difficult now but once you got your mindset sorted and you get to know your current physical strength, you'll be able to do things what every general healthy people does OuO. The brain itself is a mystery. It has so much ability that you can do, it desires your will. the brain follows the status of such desires. With a strong mindset, you will be able to see perspective differently.

Believe that you can do it!

Posted in I am alone now. Posted 5 years ago

@jolly:

with the small info that you told us about your ex, its enough for me to concern that if he does come back to you, i doubt he will be a good moral support for you if theres any bumps on the way.

to his perspective (in which i will explain in this paragraph), he felt that he's not matching the same level as you even though your dream is JUST starting to unravel. its a big sign that he isnt a good pillar for you and potentially if you got yourself bigger, and this cause grief on his end, that grief will cause more discord in the household than ever before. thats the reality if you chose a wrong person to live the rest of your life with. I have proof of that, i saw it in my own family and also a couple of friends who had toxic relationship experiences.

if you ever meet the next partner later, thats good. but as for now, if you wanted to meet the right person, you first must prove that you can stand up for yourself and all your needs covered. the person that you want to be with, they are also particularly picky as well. you wont see them in the shadows until you alone shine in their eyes and then you will realised theyre there. in this downtime, this is your best opportunity to do baby steps, what can you do to cope up with the sudden change of lifestyle. and also, the process of slowly accepting yourself, see your flaws, accept your humanity and striving motivation to look for solutions in your current situation is alone to help you pick yourself up.. getting yourself distracted from the ghosts from the past by choosing doing things that helps your future. if you know some good friends who can regularly support you in this first step, its okay to do so until you are able to self motivate yourself.

i hope this helps.