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Posted in idk why this always gives me anxiety
Posted 5 years ago
i get the same thing, and i know a lot about cars and work on my own!
i think it stems back to my first car, which never passed first try. i worked a crappy job at the time and could barely afford the parts the car needed. i would have to do strange little patchwork fix-jobs to it until it passed.
and then the first time i had to get my new car inspected, the thing failed! except it ended up not being a problem with my car - it was the dealership's machine. i took it to a different dealership and it passed just fine.
but still every year i go back, knowing absolutely nothing is wrong with my car and that it is very well taken care of and loved, yet still dreading the person coming back and telling me it failed.
i think it stems back to my first car, which never passed first try. i worked a crappy job at the time and could barely afford the parts the car needed. i would have to do strange little patchwork fix-jobs to it until it passed.
and then the first time i had to get my new car inspected, the thing failed! except it ended up not being a problem with my car - it was the dealership's machine. i took it to a different dealership and it passed just fine.
but still every year i go back, knowing absolutely nothing is wrong with my car and that it is very well taken care of and loved, yet still dreading the person coming back and telling me it failed.
Posted in Hey All.
Posted 5 years ago
hahaha the classic spring spiders... i've been seeing them, too, starting last week. we had a very mild winter with only a few snowstorms (very uncharacteristic for where I live). today it'll be 41 degrees, so that's spring enough for me!
Posted in Enjoying....
Posted 5 years ago
@Miss Sandman: i really like your avatar!
and i'm enjoying it because i've been working from home and IT'S GREAT!!
and i'm enjoying it because i've been working from home and IT'S GREAT!!
Posted in New to the site
Posted 5 years ago
welcome to voltra!
Posted in Change 1 Letter!
Posted 5 years ago
tame
Posted in Word Disassociation
Posted 5 years ago
seance
Posted in How rich ARE you?
Posted 5 years ago
40k
Posted in Song lyrics you relate to on a personal level
Posted 5 years ago
oh man this reminds me of the AIM/MSN messenger days where we'd all set song lyrics as our statuses
"And we don’t even know anybody here’s names
Can’t even front, I have no regrets
Lowkey one of my best nights yet
Oooh I’m on a big wave
Everyone around me prolly feels same
Nothing can phase me now"
Riton & Kah-Lo - Ginger
"In your room here with arms around me
Holding tight we cannot deny this
I can hear so much in the silence
So alive, the temperture is rising
Summer rain soaking into my skin
Wash away everything before you
Say the words that you've never spoken
We can be anything we want to"
OSVISS - oxygen
"Lights start to flicker and we're moving way too fast
Can you slow down? He looks at her and then he laughs
Babe, you need to learn to chill or you're never gonna last
Parties going off and I ain't easing off the gas"
Herizen - Social Jungle
"And we don’t even know anybody here’s names
Can’t even front, I have no regrets
Lowkey one of my best nights yet
Oooh I’m on a big wave
Everyone around me prolly feels same
Nothing can phase me now"
Riton & Kah-Lo - Ginger
"In your room here with arms around me
Holding tight we cannot deny this
I can hear so much in the silence
So alive, the temperture is rising
Summer rain soaking into my skin
Wash away everything before you
Say the words that you've never spoken
We can be anything we want to"
OSVISS - oxygen
"Lights start to flicker and we're moving way too fast
Can you slow down? He looks at her and then he laughs
Babe, you need to learn to chill or you're never gonna last
Parties going off and I ain't easing off the gas"
Herizen - Social Jungle
Posted in What words or phrases do you keep getting wrong?
Posted 5 years ago
lol i used to work in a daycare too and i still say "whatchu said?" instead of "what did you say?" because of one of the kids there.
Posted in Just Ended A Longtime Friendship
Posted 5 years ago
sounds like he needs more friends honestly. sorry you had to deal with that. sounds like you two were no longer on the same page, and that this is for the best. perhaps he'll be encouraged to reach out to more people and secure healthy relationships now.
Posted in I’m so insecure and my search for reassurance bothers people
Posted 5 years ago
it sounds like you need to find peace within yourself. you can't determine your worth based on what other people say about you.
did you do all you reasonably can be expected to do? do YOU think you did a good job? if you are happy with the work you did, then that is good enough. someone else will ALWAYS come along and say it's not enough or they would have done it some other way, even if what you did was perfect and accomplished everything it needed to. it is absolutely impossible to please everyone.
because of this, it is much better to rely on your own input. you're chasing something that is impossible to accomplish. do your best. take pride in yourself and the work you do. that has to be enough. praise yourself. tell yourself you are enough, you are worth it. say it in the mirror every morning to yourself. feels silly at first, but eventually your own praise will come naturally in your thoughts.
it is very important to be secure in yourself, and who you are as a person. but it takes time and work and effort. you've got this.
did you do all you reasonably can be expected to do? do YOU think you did a good job? if you are happy with the work you did, then that is good enough. someone else will ALWAYS come along and say it's not enough or they would have done it some other way, even if what you did was perfect and accomplished everything it needed to. it is absolutely impossible to please everyone.
because of this, it is much better to rely on your own input. you're chasing something that is impossible to accomplish. do your best. take pride in yourself and the work you do. that has to be enough. praise yourself. tell yourself you are enough, you are worth it. say it in the mirror every morning to yourself. feels silly at first, but eventually your own praise will come naturally in your thoughts.
it is very important to be secure in yourself, and who you are as a person. but it takes time and work and effort. you've got this.
Posted in how to destroy a friendship in 1 easy step: work with them
Posted 5 years ago
@Totalanimefan: i think she'll eventually end up leaving. she absolutely hates all of management and can't stand the way the company is run. if something doesn't go her way or she isn't treated special enough, she throws fits. the only thing tying her to us is the money.
@Kitalpha Hart: oh god no. she is super condescending. everything always comes down to her previously being a "database engineer" or "warehouse manager" or "I went to [this college]". funny thing is, i went to a significantly better ranked school than she did and i don't think she even knows that because she'll constantly try to throw her schooling in my face lmfao.
@Kairu: lol i'm not leaving my job, i only moved my desk! i sat 3 feet away from her before so there was a lot more opportunity to get into fights or be annoyed by her talking constantly.
@Kitalpha Hart: oh god no. she is super condescending. everything always comes down to her previously being a "database engineer" or "warehouse manager" or "I went to [this college]". funny thing is, i went to a significantly better ranked school than she did and i don't think she even knows that because she'll constantly try to throw her schooling in my face lmfao.
@Kairu: lol i'm not leaving my job, i only moved my desk! i sat 3 feet away from her before so there was a lot more opportunity to get into fights or be annoyed by her talking constantly.
Posted in how to destroy a friendship in 1 easy step: work with them
Posted 5 years ago
@Booderdooder: i wonder if it was just a proximity friendship. she's always sat near me at work ever since i hired her. she really, really does not like that i am her superior at work (even though i always have been) and has problems with all of management because she always thinks she can do it better. i guess it was only a matter of time.
it was very telling to me also that she did not apologize. i normally don't mind initiating that sort of thing if i had played some part in it, but i genuinely don't think i did anything wrong. so needless to say i'm not going to start an apology she doesn't deserve.
i was the only person at her wedding :/ she's gonna feel real weird looking back at those pictures.
@Kitalpha Hart: i really thought she had it together. she's married, has a cute house, 2 new cars in the driveway. i knew she had some problems before i met her with managing expectations and anxiety but i thought she was at a point where she was able to keep it together. i'm not perfect either, so i have been able to write off a lot of it or excuse her for having "off" days, but i am no longer willing to do that because i don't have never-ending patience and understanding.
it was very telling to me also that she did not apologize. i normally don't mind initiating that sort of thing if i had played some part in it, but i genuinely don't think i did anything wrong. so needless to say i'm not going to start an apology she doesn't deserve.
i was the only person at her wedding :/ she's gonna feel real weird looking back at those pictures.
@Kitalpha Hart: i really thought she had it together. she's married, has a cute house, 2 new cars in the driveway. i knew she had some problems before i met her with managing expectations and anxiety but i thought she was at a point where she was able to keep it together. i'm not perfect either, so i have been able to write off a lot of it or excuse her for having "off" days, but i am no longer willing to do that because i don't have never-ending patience and understanding.
Posted in how to destroy a friendship in 1 easy step: work with them
Posted 5 years ago
i've worked with my best friend for months but we recently started frustrating each other more and more. she would ask me questions both of us knew i wouldn't know the answer to (to get me to find the answer for her, instead of her going and finding the answer). yapped nonstop. always intruded on MY projects as though they were hers too (they're not. in any way, shape or form.) anyway one day i was a little more short with her than usual and she exploded. i apologized for making her upset, we went over what she was upset about but she never asked me why i was frustrated so i just let it go.
then yesterday she went off on me again just for doing business at work. i was on the phone with a client, turned around and asked my purchaser if an item was still stuck in customs, and my purchaser said we had some in but weren't putting them up on our site yet. he then told me to ask the owner if i could portion some of them out to my client, if i wanted. i didn't go to ask the owner because it wasn't worth it to me. i sat back down and wrapped up my phone call.
my friend started slamming things and mumbling and talking in a really snippy tone to one of our coworkers about me, in front of me. so of course i said "the only thing i asked was if they were stuck in customs." and she started going off on me, actually yelling in the office about how annoying it is to her that "other people need the item too" but i'm "getting special treatment". like, girl, it's business. if i had gone to the owner and he said "give 100 to your client" there's nothing she can do about it. but i didn't even do that, because that wasn't what i was asking for, it was whether or not they're stuck in customs.
i noticed people were really paying attention to her yelling so i said "this should be private. i will go in the back. you can come talk to me if you would still like to continue this." and went to the back. she never came. i paid zero attention to her for the rest of the day.
today, she went to my boss and told him she had tried to talk to me (she didn't, or at least didn't effectively get my attention because i have no recollection of this) but that i was being bitchy and blatantly ignoring her all day (i was, but if she had started talking to me i would have addressed her). my boss responded by telling her she was out of line for her behavior in the office yesterday. he then took me aside and suggested i move somewhere else in the office since my desk spot kinda sucked anyway. i had wanted to move my desk yesterday due to the repeated issues and my own frustration, but he initially advised against it.
so i packed up my stuff and went to a different desk, far away from her. i've realized she takes up about 3 hours of my day with her nonstop talking and that's time i could be spending on my clients, or pursuing new business. this has a direct impact on the amount of money i make. if i stop the useless chatter and instead focus on work i could add thousands of dollars to my pay every month. it would effectively double my active working hours. and i've been giving this up because i didn't want to start a rift between us by bringing it up. my management projects will be my own, without her interference or constant "suggestions" that only work for her.
i don't know what i'm trying to accomplish by posting this - i guess i don't really know how i feel about it? honestly i don't think i really even care. i do know i'm annoyed and frustrated, but i also feel kind of bad because i can't summon some sort of sad emotion about the whole situation.
then yesterday she went off on me again just for doing business at work. i was on the phone with a client, turned around and asked my purchaser if an item was still stuck in customs, and my purchaser said we had some in but weren't putting them up on our site yet. he then told me to ask the owner if i could portion some of them out to my client, if i wanted. i didn't go to ask the owner because it wasn't worth it to me. i sat back down and wrapped up my phone call.
my friend started slamming things and mumbling and talking in a really snippy tone to one of our coworkers about me, in front of me. so of course i said "the only thing i asked was if they were stuck in customs." and she started going off on me, actually yelling in the office about how annoying it is to her that "other people need the item too" but i'm "getting special treatment". like, girl, it's business. if i had gone to the owner and he said "give 100 to your client" there's nothing she can do about it. but i didn't even do that, because that wasn't what i was asking for, it was whether or not they're stuck in customs.
i noticed people were really paying attention to her yelling so i said "this should be private. i will go in the back. you can come talk to me if you would still like to continue this." and went to the back. she never came. i paid zero attention to her for the rest of the day.
today, she went to my boss and told him she had tried to talk to me (she didn't, or at least didn't effectively get my attention because i have no recollection of this) but that i was being bitchy and blatantly ignoring her all day (i was, but if she had started talking to me i would have addressed her). my boss responded by telling her she was out of line for her behavior in the office yesterday. he then took me aside and suggested i move somewhere else in the office since my desk spot kinda sucked anyway. i had wanted to move my desk yesterday due to the repeated issues and my own frustration, but he initially advised against it.
so i packed up my stuff and went to a different desk, far away from her. i've realized she takes up about 3 hours of my day with her nonstop talking and that's time i could be spending on my clients, or pursuing new business. this has a direct impact on the amount of money i make. if i stop the useless chatter and instead focus on work i could add thousands of dollars to my pay every month. it would effectively double my active working hours. and i've been giving this up because i didn't want to start a rift between us by bringing it up. my management projects will be my own, without her interference or constant "suggestions" that only work for her.
i don't know what i'm trying to accomplish by posting this - i guess i don't really know how i feel about it? honestly i don't think i really even care. i do know i'm annoyed and frustrated, but i also feel kind of bad because i can't summon some sort of sad emotion about the whole situation.