Xanthan's posts

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@Count Trashula: in my experience you can do one of two things. Go straight up or sideways. You can let it get the best of you and wear you down until you give up or give in....or you can continue your fight to get out until you have the strength, resources, and opportunity to do so successfully. In the meantime though your friend should reach out to others and share what's going on. There are resources available for all types of pain and all types of removal from those pains. As a life coach I have helped people to get out, pick themselves back up, and to rebuild by connecting them with resources. Reach out, help your friend, there's help and hope in some of the most unlikely places.

@Wildfire: so very true. That's why hurt people end up hurting people. It is also why addiction is a cycle and one that can run for generations. There are many reasons why people do not escape their pain when they need to or first realize it, but one thing we always have control over is how we react to those things life throws at us. We can't control others nor their mouths and opinions and we can't get them to keep their hands to themselves. But we can choose how we react and deal with it.

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Thank you for the replies. If I am not pinged I forget the things I post here and among other social media lol I have so many classes dealing with issues among communities and peoples and IDK I tend to have my own views and so I enjoy the feedback I get when I post here or in my hangouts thread. Thank you all again.

I feel pain is good for growth overall. It is pain that is a warning that something isn't right. I mean, there's a condition where people are not able to feel pain. How else are they to know that they have a splinter? How about if they cut themselves? I know there are other ways around it but pain in our first indicator generally. I think that goes for pain in our hearts too. Just my thoughts.

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Never in my professional or personal life have I ever seen someone transform themselves or their life NOT starting in pain.

Emotional pain. Mental pain. Physical pain. Spiritual pain.

Only when they decided they had had enough. When they listened to what that pain was trying to tell them. “This is not what life is meant to be. You are worth more than this.”

Only then did they take action to make a change.

If you’re stuck in pain right now. Listen to that pain. What is it telling you? What is it signaling you to do?

What if now was the time for you to take that pain and use it to motivate you towards something better? Like a phoenix rising from the ashes to fly towards greatness.

Your pain could be your greatest gift.

If you let it.

Thoughts?

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I can't wait to see what y'all have in store for us!!! Squeeeeeee

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My three thoughts for Today and Until next posting:

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@cartymar21: i am off on the weekends and so friday tends to go well on principle lol I am getting my kiddo ready for school monday and myself for school come the 31st. all in all it was a great day.

@GodsandPunks: I am used to being screamed at lol I know what you truly meant though. You got this. Remember what I said! Think about it! Believe it! Put it to work. :) you truly got this. I know for a fact you do.

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@cartymar21: I am sorry you have to go through that. Hopefully you can get everything you need and move forward. Recovery takes time my friend. Don't let yourself get down or best yourself up over it.

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@wormy:
@cartymar21:

TODAYS NEWS BRIEF

It’s time to say goodbye.

Goodbye to anything you have that you wouldn't buy again.
Goodbye to any relationship you have that you wouldn't start again.
Goodbye to every way of thinking that you would never adopt again.

When all of the things you have in your life are things that you use and love, you discover a very productive and powerful feeling.

Here are some takeaways for today:

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@cartymar21: hey man, how are you ? glad you found you way over to my corner. Voltra been treating you well??


@GodsandPunks: you're always on my mind :) been keeping quiet because i knew you were having family time and recouping. Hugs.

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@cartymar21: welcome to Voltra!!!! Posting in forums is the best way to earn volts. We also have a daily airship that contains various items and volts. Inside the forums, we have welcome posts, new member guides, as well as stickies at the tops of all forums with that forum's rules and such. This is a great place to hang out and the Volties here are all friendly and welcoming. Feel free to hit me up in my hangout thread, on my profile, or ping me here with any questions you may have. So glad you are here!

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@GodsandPunks: you were on my mind. Thought I'd tag ya and say hey :)

The thought for today and the more ya know!!!!

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@Xenojiiva: sounds great. How much did I owe you?

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I'm guessing that I've grown horns
I guess I'm human no more
I can tell I've rotted in your brain
Oh, how easily passion twists
You think I'm a crazy bitch
I craft my words to fit your head
'Cause no one listens to the dead

Such strong words, and yet, it got me thinking about how much we change ourselves to try and relate to someone, or to impress, to get on their level, or to try and bring them to ours. Yet, when we go into something, and we haven't put our real selves out there, instead we have put a watered-down version out there, then we have to continually alter ourselves to make things clear to the other person.

My motto is simply, don't cut yourself into bite-size pieces just because someone cannot handle you; instead, stay your true self and actual size and if they cannot handle it.....let em choke! :) with love.