We are. It's been happening with a lot of mental health issues, just beautiful flaws. But they're not, they're destructive.
It has been happening with a lot of things, imo. As a culture, we seem to be encouraging a certain kind of victimhood and helplessness by using these kinds of terms and diagnoses too freely... it's becoming just an excuse to not do what needs to be done. I personally don't know many people who don't have some kind of "anxiety" talking to a complete stranger -especially in a weird situation- but that doesn't mean everyone has clinical, debilitating, social anxiety. Instead, it means you're human, having a very human basic "fight or flight" type response to the situation... one that you can deal with if you choose to just deal with that basic fear of confrontation.
I don't agree with 'Wanting to be better won't magically make me better'. Well no. But you do have to want to go through the process of getting better. You have to want it every single day.
No - you're misunderstanding me. I'm saying that there is a certain (minor) level of "anxiety" that most people feel when having to confront a difficult situation and/or difficult people. This is a normal reaction going back to our basic "fight or flight" responses - something that most people learn to deal with fairly easily. I think this basic, normal anxiety, however, is being termed "social anxiety" and bundled together with a diagnosis along the lines of your experience... which is not the same thing.
It's the difference between people taking this "normal anxiety" and adopting it as that "beautiful flaw" we're talking about and an actual real disorder that requires assistance dealing with.
It's the difference between people taking this "normal anxiety" and adopting it as that "beautiful flaw" we're talking about and an actual real disorder that requires assistance dealing with.
Lol no I got you, I was talking about some of those affirmation memes I've seen.
I have social anxiety, ptsd, and biopolar all diagnosed. Which I go to a doctor to treat.
I have social anxiety, ptsd, and biopolar all diagnosed. Which I go to a doctor to treat.
@Another Movie Addict: Ok. *whew* Difficult conversational waters to traverse, sometimes!
Yes, some of those memes can be helpful to the "healthy" but hesitant, but there's a point where that just doesn't work and there's a real underlying issue that needs to be dealt with to one degree or another.
That's a tough combination, AMA... I'm really glad you're getting the help you need and are making such positive steps forward! <3
..... I'm not running away from the conversation, but I need to go get groceries and I'm not sure how long my energy will last (or how long Publix is going to stay open today). Apparently my guys wiped out pretty much anything resembling food while I wasn't feeling 100%. I'll bbs-ish.
Yes, some of those memes can be helpful to the "healthy" but hesitant, but there's a point where that just doesn't work and there's a real underlying issue that needs to be dealt with to one degree or another.
That's a tough combination, AMA... I'm really glad you're getting the help you need and are making such positive steps forward! <3
..... I'm not running away from the conversation, but I need to go get groceries and I'm not sure how long my energy will last (or how long Publix is going to stay open today). Apparently my guys wiped out pretty much anything resembling food while I wasn't feeling 100%. I'll bbs-ish.
All good. Lol have a nice run of errands.
@Another Movie Addict: I'm back. Publix was pretty busy - busier than I've seen it for a while, anyway.
That makes sense. Everyone is scrambling to get their black eyed peas and cabbage/greens.
Yeah, I guess. I didn't even think to get the black-eyed peas (but it's not a tradition where I grew up and it's still not second-nature to me even after living here for so long). I did buy some mustard and collard greens but I'm going to make a saag with them...
Lol we stopped doing it, because it only ever brought us bad luck.
Ouch.
You actually noticed a difference on years when you did the peas and greens and the years when you didn't??
You actually noticed a difference on years when you did the peas and greens and the years when you didn't??
I did. Lol I notice a lot of fun little things like that.
LOL. I usually notice things like that too, but again, I didn't grow up with New Year's Day traditions like there exist here...
Lol there's also a belief that whatever you're doing at midnight of the New Year is what you'll be doing the rest of the year. One of the reasons people kiss, to be lucky in love.
Yes, I'm aware of that one.
It seems weird that we're in the last hours of 2021, somehow. It has been a weirdly time-warped year (among other things)
It seems weird that we're in the last hours of 2021, somehow. It has been a weirdly time-warped year (among other things)
Good morning and 
Happy New Year 2022 everyone!
Did you have fun last night?
Did you go out?
Did you see the NYC ball drop (or watch some other "iconic image/celebration" to ring in the new year)?
Hubby and I stayed in. We had a nice dinner, watched "Don't Look Up" and a couple other things, and tuned in a few minutes before midnight to see the NYC ball drop. It was quiet, except for local fireworks (which is why we stayed home - the dogs hate loud noises), and nice.
Happy New Year 2022 everyone! Did you have fun last night?
Did you go out?
Did you see the NYC ball drop (or watch some other "iconic image/celebration" to ring in the new year)?
Hubby and I stayed in. We had a nice dinner, watched "Don't Look Up" and a couple other things, and tuned in a few minutes before midnight to see the NYC ball drop. It was quiet, except for local fireworks (which is why we stayed home - the dogs hate loud noises), and nice.
I brought the new year in with some Animal Crossing. Before that friends and I streamed a video of the Beetlejuice musical.
Beetlejuice... musical?? I shouldn't really be surprised with that information, but I did not realize there was a musical variation of that old movie!
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Good morning and Happy New Year to you too! :violet-celebrate:
And I celebrated it with only my mother last night which was still nice. Unfortunately my brother had night shift and my dad was too tired to stay up late and as for me, my entire new years eve is just me snoozing through afternoon and evening (woke up at 8pm) because my sleep has been so fucked up lately.
But it gave me more energy to celebrate it with my mother last and at least for the new year, I'm fuckin determined to get my sleep back in order ono
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Having you as a Voltie would be awesome.