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Millet, spilling the tea:

(Because of the miscommunication, I will keep this prompt up one more week. I really wanna see what you guys come up with!
All future prompts regardless of participation, will be changed every wednesday though.

@Dowan: Thanks a bunch! :)

Millet, spilling the tea:

Yes, everyone can join throughout the entire week. I'll edit my initial post to reflect that more clearly.
Ya'll have today still!

Millet, spilling the tea:

@Another movie addict: Thanks! I'm big on Minecraft xp

Millet, spilling the tea:

@Hazer: Forgive my newbish inability to see that it was pending on my end.

Millet, spilling the tea:

The sources behind the claims look shotty.
And I'm sure its impact is barely any more or less different than someone playing any not super intellectually stimulating game. My step mother plays BINGO on her iPhone up to 6 hours a day.
There's zero strategy or concentration to bingo, so for fairness of the claim I'd like them to weigh it against other things. Next time with a bigger pool of subjects and longer range.

Millet, spilling the tea:

^apologies in advance if my tone isnt reflective of my intention. I wrote that feeling concerned for you but re-reading it -it almost soundsounds snippy. The bane of my existence.

Millet, spilling the tea:

I only have what you wrote to go on of course, but -from this- it is clearly evident he is emotionally abusive just as it is evident you are likely codependent.

The single thing that I see time and time again both in my own personal experience and with watching others in similar scenarios is it seems difficult for people to accept that they really cant change someone, unless that person wants to change.

If he truly does lack self awareness, coupled with the rare admission of flaw but skews it with "that's just my personality" there is nothing you can do. This is a wall he created and it seems from your description he is in denial of it being there.

It doesnt matter how nice you are. How hard you try. And ultimately the more you try things with blatantly no progress ends up enabling him.

Think about it, you keep coming back no matter how horrible he is. He has you wrapped around his finger while you struggle to find objective foundation and question 'what's ok? This doesnt feel ok. But what IS ok?'.

He has no reason to change. He has no desire to change and he seems tootin' proud of what he's becoming.

If you haven't tried thoroughly communicating with him I do suggest you gently try to do so. I dont mean "hey you're mean sometimes and it hurts", I mean "listen, since xxx event it feels like you are closing up/drifting out and it makes my place in your life feel insecure...etc."

If you have already done that, and it went no where or backfired then you really need to enter this difficult phase of acceptance that he wont change. You cant change him and the only way things are going to get better - is if you make the change for yourself.

I understand it's not remotely that simple. I've been in exactly the same scenario and at the time vomit worthy levels of codependency.

But you need peace in your life hon. Dont rob yourself of it. You deserve to be in a relationship where communication isnt hostile and your ground isnt shaking beneath you. He needs a reality check but he cant get one if he doesnt learn that actions have consequences. This wont change, this will continue if he doesnt seek help and if you dont seek the change you know deep down is inevitable if he wont meet you half way on the emotional spectrum.

Millet, spilling the tea:

Every summer is different for me. Either I burn like a lobster or tan like dipped bronzer.

I guess that comes with the fact that I'm mostly half Irish, half Iberian. (A few other things mixed in but those are the dominant ones)

So I feel ya-

Sometimes.

Millet, spilling the tea:

Of all the social avatar media sites, Voltra's site design itself (color scheme, location of tabs, etc) as well as the actual avatar's - is my favorite and I will push to help keep this place active.

Millet, spilling the tea:

Thank you

Millet, spilling the tea:

You're amaz-sauce!

Millet, spilling the tea:

Of course you are allowed!

Millet, spilling the tea:

I have quite a few sets I'd be willing to part with as well as many dupe rig items.
Please let me know what you are seeking out and let's see if we can make a deal! :)

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