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Posted in Spring Cleaning: The Dust Wars Event FAQ (+ Raffle Hangout!) Posted 2 years ago

@Totalanimefan: heheh i did not end up napping. instead i made dinner and went to circle k and did a jigsaw puzzle.

Posted in Story Time Posted 2 years ago

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Posted in Spring Cleaning: The Dust Wars Event FAQ (+ Raffle Hangout!) Posted 2 years ago

Speaking of breathers, i'm finally off work, i'm going to go lie down for an hour and then maybe play some games!

Posted in Spring Cleaning: The Dust Wars Event FAQ (+ Raffle Hangout!) Posted 2 years ago

@Totalanimefan: i get that. You gotta take breaks some times and give yourself a breather.

@Wildfire: Yeah, a lot of people don't wanna parent or enforce boundaries or anything, so it's good that there are still some people who do.

Posted in Spring Cleaning: The Dust Wars Event FAQ (+ Raffle Hangout!) Posted 2 years ago

@Wildfire: That is reassuring. :] It's nice to hear that some people are able to raise their children to be well adjusted adults.

Posted in Spring Cleaning: The Dust Wars Event FAQ (+ Raffle Hangout!) Posted 2 years ago

@Totalanimefan: I totally get that feeling. it really might just be one of those days. I have them frequently.

Posted in Spring Cleaning: The Dust Wars Event FAQ (+ Raffle Hangout!) Posted 2 years ago

@wildfire: Oh, i'm sure it Heavily has something to do with social constructs and conditioning. There have been studies about it, i'm sure, and it's easy enough to see it- Fathers telling thier sons to "man up" or something similar when they're expressing something that causes an emotion. It's like men are trained from a young age to not express emotions unless it's with someone they're in a relationship with. I hope, when i have kids, my husband and i can teach our sons not to be like that and can instill upon them the importance of communicating their emotional needs with more than just their SO's

Posted in Spring Cleaning: The Dust Wars Event FAQ (+ Raffle Hangout!) Posted 2 years ago

@Wildfire: yeah, same for you too! It's a little sad to me that that's a difficult thing to find, really. But also the thing i was saying makes me sad for men too. i can't imagine not being able to talk to your friends about things like women can. That would drive me crazy.

Posted in Fantastic Beasts 3 hit HBO Max today! Posted 2 years ago

@macsen191: i agree! Mikkelsen definitely took a little adjusting to, because he wanted to play Grindelwald his own way and now how Depp was playing him, so that's a big reason as to why.

Posted in Spring Cleaning: The Dust Wars Event FAQ (+ Raffle Hangout!) Posted 2 years ago

@wildfire: yeah, take you time- it's just a short skit about empathy and the need to just be listened to lol Yeah, i think men in general have an automatic response to want to fix things, so it's nice that Tyi lets me rant more now. He used to not understand that while i appreciate the solutions he gives, i don't always want or need him to fix my problems, and i just want to vent, because that's an important emotional thing women do with each other. That actually reminds me that i read somewhere that the reason men tend to think that women send mixed signals is because women talk to their friends about their emotional needs and men don't, and rather use their partners solely for their emotional outlets, so when women talk to them about thier emotional stuff, they think that the woman is interested since that's what they would do if they were interested in a woman. it was explained better than that, i'm just paraphrasing.

Posted in Spring Cleaning: The Dust Wars Event FAQ (+ Raffle Hangout!) Posted 2 years ago

@Wildfire: I agree. Though, sometimes he offers solutions when i just want to rant, so i have to remind him that it's not about the nail (please watch this video, it's funny)

Posted in Spring Cleaning: The Dust Wars Event FAQ (+ Raffle Hangout!) Posted 2 years ago

@Wildfire: Yeah, he's pretty great. Most of the time he just lets me rant, but sometimes he offers suggestions lol

that went so fast... oh man. well, i still have a few more minutes before everyone else should be back, at least.

Posted in Spring Cleaning: The Dust Wars Event FAQ (+ Raffle Hangout!) Posted 2 years ago

@Wildfire: Yeah, i get that, but anytime i had that situation it was on a break when i'd call my husband lol or when i needed help i'd just call the assist line. I became friends with the assist line people pretty fast which was good because i actually ended up with them.

Also, lunch time!

Posted in Spring Cleaning: The Dust Wars Event FAQ (+ Raffle Hangout!) Posted 2 years ago

@Wildfire: Yeah, i'm actually ok with that because when i worked in an office for the company (the one that actually pays me is separate from swans, since swans is the contract i'm on), i barely talked to anyone and it made me feel bad because people were really cliquey there. Helped me with work, being antisocial, but it's not a good moral booster to be comparing yourself to others. So working from home will definitely make it easier for my mental health. Also i'll have Tyi to talk to if need be.