Xanthan's posts
Posted in MOTHER MONSTER (and Doja Cat?)
Posted 5 years ago
@Bonnie: she's had it rough. She sings about it. And she owns that shizzzz lol
Posted in MOTHER MONSTER (and Doja Cat?)
Posted 5 years ago
@Bonnie: you won't regret it. She sings from the soul and her writing is simply emotional and divine. She's a true musician in all sense of the word.
Posted in MOTHER MONSTER (and Doja Cat?)
Posted 5 years ago
@Bonnie: war in my mind, soul shine, la song, I can go on and on. Never a bad song.
Posted in I'm an asshole and my new friend is a tryhard
Posted 5 years ago
@Totalanimefan: thank you. I jusy fot some awesome news on grad school. I'll be switching my major to clinical mental health counseling but I have already spoken with the director of the program etc. I'm super stoked.
Posted in MOTHER MONSTER (and Doja Cat?)
Posted 5 years ago
@Bonnie: thank you for the recommendation. My favorite artist of all time is Beth Hart. She is an amazing gritty rough and bluesy voice who tells amazing stories.
Posted in I'm an asshole and my new friend is a tryhard
Posted 5 years ago
@Totalanimefan: you are very welcome. My degree is in Criminal justice and psychology. Applying to grad school for mental health counseling or possibly social work. I find that I would love to work with teens and such vs adults lol I feel a lot for younger generations and the older ones as well. Times are changing fast and things are much harder on kiddos. It is a shame. And parents aren't spending enough active time participating in their kids life. And rant before I begin soap box preaching lol maybe I need to see if we have a priest set of avatar items jk
Posted in MOTHER MONSTER (and Doja Cat?)
Posted 5 years ago
@Bonnie: not sure about Doja Cat but I will be researching. Any favorite song or video I need to look out for?
Posted in Was from Ernya~ Hi all.
Posted 5 years ago
Welcome! Glad you're here now :)
Posted in MOTHER MONSTER (and Doja Cat?)
Posted 5 years ago
I have had her on repeat all day while I cleaned and ran errands! Amazing music.
Posted in I'm an asshole and my new friend is a tryhard
Posted 5 years ago
@Totalanimefan: excellent points. I couldn't agree more!
People like that tend to have insecurities due to abandonment or a lack of stability. Sit down and have a nice talk. Set healthy boundaries and definitely provide reassurances and empathy. Validating someone is a powerful thing.
Conversely your feelings and thoughts are equally valid. But you made an important revelation in your post, he is a nice guy and that warrants a bit of understanding and leeway. Maybe he doesn't know how to be a friend other than to buy things. He didn't become this person overnight and if he is willing to try and change remember the change won't happen overnight as well. So just talk to him. See what happens.
People like that tend to have insecurities due to abandonment or a lack of stability. Sit down and have a nice talk. Set healthy boundaries and definitely provide reassurances and empathy. Validating someone is a powerful thing.
Conversely your feelings and thoughts are equally valid. But you made an important revelation in your post, he is a nice guy and that warrants a bit of understanding and leeway. Maybe he doesn't know how to be a friend other than to buy things. He didn't become this person overnight and if he is willing to try and change remember the change won't happen overnight as well. So just talk to him. See what happens.