Xanthan's posts

@Nephila: it is truly a blessing to have my son but you're right it is a lot of hard work. I'm so proud of my kiddo and I know I may never win parent of the year lol but I am confident that when I leave this world he will continue my work of loving not hating. Heloing others not being selfish. Understanding not ignorance. That along with his huge heart give me hope for the future. Besides, I know when the time comes he's picking my nursing home so I gotta do right 😆

Having good people in your life for love and support can truly be a game changer. If only more people recognised that. If you have the ability to be supportive in person vs distance then go to your friends that you say you care about. Their situation may seem silly to you but to them the support, a hug, a kind word in person can mean life or death in some instances.

@Bonnie: I love metaphors and such. Too often we think we are tending to our garden of life but we don't like what grows or bears fruit. Then we realize instead of grapes we were planting onions. Not instead of weeding we were too busy. Instead of water or fertilizer to care and nurture we were in someone else's garden. If you don't like whats growing in your garden then tend to the weeds so the good stuff doesn't get choked out. Feed it water and fertilizer the way you do your friends and their garden. Make sure you lay a good foundation with you words and intent by tilling the soil. And last but not least, double check your seeds. You may think your planting one thing but in reality it is something else. ;)

@xvz: thank you! I could use the support for sure.

@Totalanimefan: isnt it though. Im headed to bed quite happy. My face hurts from smiling so much.

@DevilkinBoi: just for you lol

@wrik: yes. 100% yes. My trinkets my random things. Those are my memories. My good times and happiness.

@DevilkinBoi: awe imma still hit you up ;)

@wrik: exactly. I love thoughtful things. Not even just gifts but I'm a sucker for a good morning or good night text. Or a phone call out of the blue just to hear someone say they were thinking of me and my son. I used to get random drawings and doodles from some of my co-workers. I cherish them as if they were told plated Van Goghs.

I'm a firm believer that life is in the details. It isn't a race to the end. It is a journey where you're able to meet people, not where you think they should be but where they are, and then you take turns elevating one another.

When I am doing well, I don't wanna hoard it, rather I wanna share it. With friends. With family. With anyone. Details can be walks in the rain, a back rub, holding someone when they're in need, or even a genuine smile given freely. There are times just hearing someone say my name ... I just melt and suddenly all is right with the world. One day I'll have a partner who understands this but in the meantime my friends get it. Little things. ;)

@DevilkinBoi: thank you. Huggles. I am about to download discord again and I hope we can catch up.

@LilMissKushy: so very true. I'm very lucky.


@wrik: agreed. I think the world needs more random acts of kindness. Sometimes action helps back up the words people say.

@sunny: it really is. I am a huge Disney need and I kept putting this off. I just felt really blessed and special.

I've not ever been one for fancy things or needing elaborate or ornate trinkets and such. I'm truly a pretty plain country boy living a suburban life. So it took my by surprise when I got a text today from someone special. They took notice of all my Disney stuff and remembered my showing them some Disney canvases that I needed to have mounted. Well, they took it upon themselves to have 2 of my 7 stretched and mounted.

I couldn't speak or text I was just stunned. And when asked why they did it.....i was just told it was something they wanted to do because they knew as a single parent I don't often do things for myself. Which is probably why they've been stored for nearly 2 years lol

So here's to the little things in life. Like being thought of and appreciated. Being listened to and actually heard. And being surprised with random acts of kindness.

@LilMissKushy: I updated the trade. I'm glad to be back. This place is my sanctuary.

@Miss Sandman: thank you. It feels good to be back.

@Totalanimefan: he's the best. If I cannot do right by him then there's really no hope for anyone else I come across lol